parents of drug users

I have only read a few posts here, but the minute I started reading I felt like I belonged and got tears in my eyes. BG: I have one son, who just turned 18. He's had behavioral issues since he was in preschool (4 hour tantrums), and spent a lot of time in legal trouble. At various times, he's...

Hello all. I feel like I have known the regular members here on the forum for along time, because I have been reading this forum for about a year. You guys have given me so much comfort over the year. I felt like it was time to start posting my story to get some feedback from moms and dads...

There were several articles in our paper today about jail overcrowding, repeat probation violations, lack of mental health services and helping mentally ill people apply for disability. It made me think all over again about the issue that many of us deal with on this board: the issue of our...

difficult child came over to our house to get a check for the halfway house. I left her in the kitchen for a few minutes while I went to get my checkbook. After she left, I went to give our dogs their afternoon dose of Benadryl for their allergies when I realized it was missing. I asked husband if he had...

Good Afternoon Everyone! I was wondering if anyone has had the experience of getting conservatorship or guardianship over an 18yr old to be able to have a say in their mental health. I currently have joint custody with his dad, and my son is NOT emancipated (we live in NJ). His dad is out of...

First of all, I apologise if I have upset anybody. That is definitely NOT my intention. Second -- one of my faults (and I have very very many) is that I don't know how to be funny, or satirical, or super-duper clever. I just say things the way they are, in black and white. That's how I am...

Hi, I mostly post on the General Board. My difficult child 1 is 18 and a freshman in a local community college. She has major depression which ramps up unpleasantly when she is premenstrual and for the first few days of her period. Over the past four years, since her dad and I separated and have since...

I guess this thread is what it is = I dont know anymore! I got another letter from my difficult child today. He says it makes him sad that we wont let him come home! I understand that and it makes my heart hurt but why cant he see it is for his benefit too!!! I told him he had to prove with actions that...

My heart goes out to you. I once was that frightened, that crazy with codependence for my son. I understand. could you do one thing today? go to the library and borrow these two books: boundaries by townsend and cloud codependent no more by melody beattie. that step started healing me. I...

You know, it has been occurring to me over the past few days, that I have been depressed, not myself at all, for all the long years since this began. Now, here is the interesting thing. The pain was actually strengthening, in a way. It became who I was. I was someone who functioned despite...

Well friends I will try not to frustrate anyone! My son will be bonded out next tuesday. Please pray for us and him. He will go straight to a long term rehab not far from where we live. He will not come home. My husband and I will not be there to take him - just the ministry man. Please...

Although I'm not friends with difficult child on Facebook I often check his page just for peace of mind. It makes me feel better when I see that he's online because at least I know he's not dead. Anyway, I just looked and here's his status. (I censored some bad words and removed easy child's real name but the...

My son is 30 years old and is homeless and keeps begging for forgiveness and help. My wife and I raised him the best we could like any parents would. Kept him in sports and in high school he was introduced to drugs. His two older sisters graduated from high school and continued with their...

Hello and I would like to initially say I am so glad to have found this site, I have tried to Dr. Google my difficult child's perceived condition for years which only confuses, worries and ultimately does not give the answers that I am seeking which really is how do I make my child (well adult child now)...

Oh my - his hearing date is June 10 - I feel like I am not ready for this - I just want someone to do something - I like my peace - I fear for what they will do but also I fear of what they wont do - crazy I know - I dont want him coming home - he has to find somewhere to go if they give him...

difficult child 1 has been transferred from state mental hospital to jail after being found fit to stand trial on a past assault charge. My husband and I had visited him at the mental hospital and found him a little stiff, but he told us he loved and and seemed to be really trying. He had not been on medications for...

I'm sorry I've been away from the boards for awhile. It has been a rough couple of weeks. I've been hiding and licking my wounds. Had to get this out. difficult child, When I think back on all the hours I spent poring over letters to you, trying to capture the perfect phrase to impart guidance or...

I will post each day, new questions always coming... I am new here. There is just so much background... but my difficult child is 22 has a 11 week old daughter, and is in 30 day treatment lock up and in denial. Short version... Got expelled from 11th grade and we got him to a private school where he...

I received several texts from difficult child last night, actually 2 in the morning, that made no sense so I questioned her and asked if she was drinking or using. She said no but as I questioned more it was apparent she was either drunk or high. Of course then I couldn't go back to sleep and am sick to my...

I am the mother of a 16 year old son. I honestly don't know where to start, if this journey will end well, and each day it is a chore to find the will to smile, to just be and to not curl up somewhere and sleep. I have a small farm with horses, chickens, elderly dogs and a house mouse, thank...