Younger Difficult Child has started an intensive outpatient substance abuse therapy. We drive three times a week to a town 50 miles away, and her meetings last for 3 hours each time. Thursday meetings are "open" for family members to attend, but she didn't feel comfortable with me attending the first week.
I don't know how effective this will be, as she is already complaining about the religious aspect. She grew up in a Christian home, but the last two years has not been willing to be very involved with attending church or group activities.
If a person isn't willing to try the 12 steps that are based on a higher power...how effective will this be? We are to attend 24 meetings. In the past, she was very good about "talking the talk" but not really changing her behaviors.
I just feel like I may be wasting my time, energy and cash going to all these meetings if she isn't going to apply what she is learning. But I don't want to jinx anything. It's only been a week. But I have not seen her change her attitude. Plus she is on house arrest from her probation officer for having two dirty UAs in a little over two weeks.
I am going to attend an Alanon meeting this Monday. I hope it helps me...I am so anxious. But, I wonder if Alanon helps when the addict is a minor? I know we can't control another's actions, but the court sure expects me to keep her in line. Once she is off house arrest, I worry that things will spin out of control. But, even with her home, friends can sneak her drugs, if they want.
A friend reminded me that our granddaughters personalities were pretty well formed before we got custody, but I had such hopes for them both. They are beautiful and smart...and weak and flawed and insecure.
To know that my 16yo is addicted to meth is frightening. I saw a letter she wrote to her mom, but never sent. She told her mom she first tried meth because she wanted to know why her mom chose meth over her...and now she knows... So sad. She got a letter from her mom today, from jail, where she has been for being an assessory to armed robbery. To get cash. For meth. Biomom is looking at serious prison time.
Ksm
I don't know how effective this will be, as she is already complaining about the religious aspect. She grew up in a Christian home, but the last two years has not been willing to be very involved with attending church or group activities.
If a person isn't willing to try the 12 steps that are based on a higher power...how effective will this be? We are to attend 24 meetings. In the past, she was very good about "talking the talk" but not really changing her behaviors.
I just feel like I may be wasting my time, energy and cash going to all these meetings if she isn't going to apply what she is learning. But I don't want to jinx anything. It's only been a week. But I have not seen her change her attitude. Plus she is on house arrest from her probation officer for having two dirty UAs in a little over two weeks.
I am going to attend an Alanon meeting this Monday. I hope it helps me...I am so anxious. But, I wonder if Alanon helps when the addict is a minor? I know we can't control another's actions, but the court sure expects me to keep her in line. Once she is off house arrest, I worry that things will spin out of control. But, even with her home, friends can sneak her drugs, if they want.
A friend reminded me that our granddaughters personalities were pretty well formed before we got custody, but I had such hopes for them both. They are beautiful and smart...and weak and flawed and insecure.
To know that my 16yo is addicted to meth is frightening. I saw a letter she wrote to her mom, but never sent. She told her mom she first tried meth because she wanted to know why her mom chose meth over her...and now she knows... So sad. She got a letter from her mom today, from jail, where she has been for being an assessory to armed robbery. To get cash. For meth. Biomom is looking at serious prison time.
Ksm