Mercy. I haven't been alone in a long time to wallow in my sorrow until now. We were part of the government shutdown so my husband was home with me for 35 glorious days. He talked me into another "puppy" and we coddled this little 2lb runt in our arms , literally, for that whole 35 days. As I sit here now, he is a 20 lb Boxer in what appears to be his terrible two's and makes me very very happy.
Recently, my husband and I arrived home to a strange vehicle in our driveway. I ran inside for the puppy and the "loo" (lol), thinking it was my other son. I quickly put it together in my head what was going on at the same time my husband approached me and said "its Mark". Somehow within a nano second I already knew it. He was next door with my parents(same home). I went into the garage to smoke and there he was. He looked at me lovingly, stood up and said "hi mom" and gave me his usual loving hug. He had access to our home for hours before we arrived home. I looked at him long and hard. He was dirty looking, long hair, skinny and looked high but I don't have a clue on what. He was kind sweet and calm. This was the ONE freaking weekend that I decided that I needed a break and did NOT get my grandaughters. dang, that all changed in a second in my heart wanting he and his daughters to be together. I quickly drove to get the girls. When we came home, I said, "go upstairs, go on, go upstairs". They did the what, why, what gammy, etc. When they opened the door I heard them yell "daddy"!!!! I told myself that I would let them all stay upstairs for the weekend and simply be a family. The "in-law" suite up over the garage is a real fun huge room, TV, cable, sofas, recliners, an indoor tent, year round Christmas lights.
My husband was pissed. He wanted him OUT and OUT NOW . We fought and disagreed. I knew Sunday night, when I returned the girls to their other granny, that I had to look at this shell of a human and say leave. I cried and screamed like a baby. I said to my husband, when you ask him to leave YOU FILL UP HIS TANK YOU PUT HIM IN A HOTEL FOR A NIGHT AND YOU GIVE HIM SOME CASH ! of which we agreed.
I had a few talks with Mark in the garage while we smoked and the girls weren't around. I cried why, what are you doing, what the hell do you call this, what is your plan.
I can't even finish this right now, it is soooo long what has been going on.
He went to the hotel, we got a bill for him smoking in the room. His fingers are more yellow than mustard !
He picks ciggs up off the ground and smokes them. We got a bill for phone calls. My husband put him up in a room free for a week with points !
He told me his wife left him, he told me he had a stroke in his brain stem, he told me he hurts, he told me he sees his wife from time to time with her new boyfriend, he told me he has to drive to another state to get proof of his existence because he has ZERO proof or paperwork of who he is. He has a different illegal unregistered car. He had a stroke in his eye and cant see. There is probably more but I believed every word. He was soft spoken and as beautiful as ever to me albeit homeless and the reasons why.
I sat in dread until the day his week of drugging it up in the hotel room ran out as a cold arctic blast was falling upon Ohio. , until we got the bill of his using us . I couldn't believe I fell for it.
I didn't hear from him again and carried on; getting the girls every weekend and enjoying my favorite free things in life as usual. Trying to keep on keeping on.
It was a 6 degree evening when I got a call from an unknown #. I ignored it. Moments later it rang again and something told me to answer it. The police were asking me to come get his car or it was going to be impounded. Nope, not going out and leaving MY truck on the side of the road to rescue he and his wife. Not putting the girls through it. I told the police they were homeless and that car was their home and the officer told me the same thing saying that he could not put them on the side of the road in 6 degrees and allowed them to drive illegally, no license (either of them) no insurance, no registration, one and a half miles to my driveway where they would "sleep". I told the officer if he really had that kindness in his heart and soul that a blessing would certainly come back to him.
I waited, shaking like a leaf, sitting in the window, watching for lights to arrive in my driveway. I told my husband, duh, he's going to quickly go the opposite direction as soon as the officer lets him go, he's not going to come here. Why would he do that. Much to my surprise I saw headlights arrive at the bottom of the driveway, stop and shut off. I just stared; the grand-daughters were beginning to notice. The car started back up, moved forward and stopped again. I walked out there and said "what the f**k are you two a**holes up to" to which my son replied, "what should we be up to" , I said, "well, you should be at a job and you (looking at his wife) should be cleaning your home "! He said, "I start work tomorrow and the house is clean" I said, "you have an apartment", he said, "we're living in it (car) and its clean".
I said get the hell in the house, you are not sitting out here in my driveway in 6 degrees, get the f in the house and see your children. I let them visit for an hour while they all had fun upstairs and I did not participate AT ALL. I then said to my husband, I don't give a rats a** but I AM keeping my schedule of these girls bedtime which is NOW. I went upstairs and told them, you got ten minutes to say goodnight, these girls need to go to bed. They agreed, didn't ask for nothing and left.
Theres more, theres so much more but I can't go on at the moment.
They are still homeless collecting tickets from compassionate police officers who ticket them but don't impound their "home"(car) -
to be continued.........
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