I know now that I am officially over the hill when all I wish for is peace and quiet, living our lives happilly but seperate from our kids issues.
I am paying the price for having too much of a reign in my kids lives, but even if I tell them to leave me out of the problems and issues, they keep coming back for more.
My easy child daughter leaves for boot camp in about 10 days. I still have mixed emotions on that one. She is leaving behind her husband and 2 yrold son. Some of her reasonings for their future makes sense, but I cannot help but feel she is still being selfish in the choice she has made, to alleviate the stress she been under, but not having anything to do with her son. My sister in law and grandchild will be living with us for 6 months until they post her, and maybe longer if she is directly deployed. It will be hard but good for my grandson. My sister in law is good with him, but his assertiveness, his gift to talk, and to think, and act for himself is the pace of a snail.
Anyway , they are in debt and will be in the cleear ion a month, but she thinks they should have a brand new car, that would include the diffference tacked on of the old car. They are just taking over the payments this months since she is done with school, and they payments will double! Up to now, they have been poor managers of money she tries, but spends, he just doesnt take an interest. She wanted a co signer again and we said no. She accepted it but it is just the fact she came to us in the first place. We have done so much, she acknowledges it, but more and more and more they want. They even went to his Aunt that they already borrowed from, adn aske for cosigning help. What is up with this?
My difficult child son is in his constant cycle of wanting more, spending more, not happy with what he has, and exhausting us with all his stories, lies, adn manipulations. We hjave handled it well so far, but really I am so tired of the way he is. I can and never wil be able to relate to the way he is. He wants us to listen, but he does not accept that he could use professional, and medicinal help. He and his wife just had a baby, this makes 4 for him, and he is Occupational Therapist (OT) even 23. He gives support money when he is willing to part with his money. Now yes he is supposedly working, but ai think he purposely doesnt tell his employers about the support withdraw until Child support services threatens him. He recently did his income tas, only to find out he wasnt going to claim his Collefe money for personal use, tell them he has back owed child support. Well the tax place is the same one I go to , so they figured that all out. It will be straightend out but in the meantime it is all their fault that it is now going to take twice as long to get the tax money back, and it is the tax firms fault?
Yeah I hear detach, and want to, they just invade. Short of restraining orders that then just attracts police more which I dont want, nothing else to do.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Jen
I am paying the price for having too much of a reign in my kids lives, but even if I tell them to leave me out of the problems and issues, they keep coming back for more.
My easy child daughter leaves for boot camp in about 10 days. I still have mixed emotions on that one. She is leaving behind her husband and 2 yrold son. Some of her reasonings for their future makes sense, but I cannot help but feel she is still being selfish in the choice she has made, to alleviate the stress she been under, but not having anything to do with her son. My sister in law and grandchild will be living with us for 6 months until they post her, and maybe longer if she is directly deployed. It will be hard but good for my grandson. My sister in law is good with him, but his assertiveness, his gift to talk, and to think, and act for himself is the pace of a snail.
Anyway , they are in debt and will be in the cleear ion a month, but she thinks they should have a brand new car, that would include the diffference tacked on of the old car. They are just taking over the payments this months since she is done with school, and they payments will double! Up to now, they have been poor managers of money she tries, but spends, he just doesnt take an interest. She wanted a co signer again and we said no. She accepted it but it is just the fact she came to us in the first place. We have done so much, she acknowledges it, but more and more and more they want. They even went to his Aunt that they already borrowed from, adn aske for cosigning help. What is up with this?
My difficult child son is in his constant cycle of wanting more, spending more, not happy with what he has, and exhausting us with all his stories, lies, adn manipulations. We hjave handled it well so far, but really I am so tired of the way he is. I can and never wil be able to relate to the way he is. He wants us to listen, but he does not accept that he could use professional, and medicinal help. He and his wife just had a baby, this makes 4 for him, and he is Occupational Therapist (OT) even 23. He gives support money when he is willing to part with his money. Now yes he is supposedly working, but ai think he purposely doesnt tell his employers about the support withdraw until Child support services threatens him. He recently did his income tas, only to find out he wasnt going to claim his Collefe money for personal use, tell them he has back owed child support. Well the tax place is the same one I go to , so they figured that all out. It will be straightend out but in the meantime it is all their fault that it is now going to take twice as long to get the tax money back, and it is the tax firms fault?
Yeah I hear detach, and want to, they just invade. Short of restraining orders that then just attracts police more which I dont want, nothing else to do.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Jen
and hung up on me, then the next time she told me that once she is out of the service, maybe we wont see our Grandson as much because I said NO.
