Hi All
Wow, am I in a hurtful place. I feel like a failure and a terrible father.
I have a son, 20 who is amazing. He is such a great guy and we have a wonderful relationship. The problem is with my daughter, 16. She has always been difficult from the moment she was born.
For the last five years, she has made everyone's life hell. Her behavior has been so bad that my marriage fell apart and I left the family home leaving my ex-wife to deal with her on a daily basis. We both tried in vain to get anyone to help. Social services, doctors, the school - nobody cared at all and absolutely no help was ever offer.
Last year her mother reached breaking point and killed herself. It has destroyed my son and he blames his sister 100% for the death of his mother.
My daughter did not want to live with me and she now lives with a friend and I pay her bed and board etc.
She is completely off the rails, has dropped out of college and only contacts me when she wants money. If I ever dare to comment on her life she just tells me to f off.
Everyone around me says 'she's your daughter and you must keep trying' but while I love her, I do not like her. At times I hate her - she is the nastiest, most vile human being I have ever met.
I don't want her in my life anymore - that is a sentence I never thought I would say.
I feel terrible for saying it but it's true.
Any advice? Am I doing the right/wrong thing?
Do I even get to make this decision or is always going to be a thorn in my side?
C
Wow, am I in a hurtful place. I feel like a failure and a terrible father.
I have a son, 20 who is amazing. He is such a great guy and we have a wonderful relationship. The problem is with my daughter, 16. She has always been difficult from the moment she was born.
For the last five years, she has made everyone's life hell. Her behavior has been so bad that my marriage fell apart and I left the family home leaving my ex-wife to deal with her on a daily basis. We both tried in vain to get anyone to help. Social services, doctors, the school - nobody cared at all and absolutely no help was ever offer.
Last year her mother reached breaking point and killed herself. It has destroyed my son and he blames his sister 100% for the death of his mother.
My daughter did not want to live with me and she now lives with a friend and I pay her bed and board etc.
She is completely off the rails, has dropped out of college and only contacts me when she wants money. If I ever dare to comment on her life she just tells me to f off.
Everyone around me says 'she's your daughter and you must keep trying' but while I love her, I do not like her. At times I hate her - she is the nastiest, most vile human being I have ever met.
I don't want her in my life anymore - that is a sentence I never thought I would say.
I feel terrible for saying it but it's true.
Any advice? Am I doing the right/wrong thing?
Do I even get to make this decision or is always going to be a thorn in my side?
C