Anyone ever had a family member in a group home setting?

Barbaro

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Not an issue for me at present, but for a dear friend. He lived with us for awhile after he divorced. He met another lady, became engaged to her and moved in with her. Problem is her autistic son. He can be extremely difficult to live with. My friend had considerable contact with him prior to actually moving in, but didn't really get what it was like to live with him 24/7. Biggest issue is Mom waits on him hand and foot and it would seem her son thinks everyone else ought to as well. The issue came to a head this past weekend when son woke up my friend at about 10 PM demanding that he heat up food for him. Friend said no, do it yourself (he's quite capable.) Son proceeded to beat up my friend, then called the police. He then tried to uncall the police, which triggers even more police to come.

So they now have to wait for DCF to do a report. Thing is, my friend is a teacher, and says these days you do not want DV on your record and he does not wish to risk his credentials to teach. I mentioned group home living, but my friend doubts fiancee with go along. I just wondered if anyone had had to place a family member in one, and what they were like. Thank you for any info you can give.
 

RN0441

100% better than I was but not at 100% yet
Wow sorry to hear this. How old is the son?

I do not know anything about this but more will be along that do!
 

Barbaro

New Member
Wow sorry to hear this. How old is the son?

I do not know anything about this but more will be along that do!
He is 23 or 24. I think it isn't likely fiancee will go along with putting him in a group home. But I'm wondering if she's considered what will happen when she gets too old? I don't know her very well, her son is what you'd call functionally illiterate, Don't think he's ever held a job for long. Thing is, I don't think my friend should have to live with the threat of being beat up because he doesn't feel like heating up food for someone who is capable but just thinks someone else should do it for him.
 
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