Hopeless
....Hopeful Now
Okay, I have been reading some of the posts tonight and obviously I am not alone. My difficult child, who lives with her difficult child boyfriend is coming to our house on Christmas. While this should be a happy time to spend with my family, I am so dreading it. I have to try and make everyone happy and calm. Calm is not a common thing when my husband and difficult child get together. They know how to push each other's buttons and then we will see fireworks.
Our difficult child has not lived in our home since her last stint at juvi when she was 17 1/2. She was constantly in trouble with the law (stealing, fights, drugs). After 45 days in juvi and weekly appearances in court, the judge decided to place her with my parents (against our wishes as we thought she needed some structured setting, where she could get mental theraphy as well). That lasted three months until she turned 18 and then she got picked up with several drugs on her possession. Her public defender from juvi went with her to adult court and she was placed on probation through the drug court.
While on probation, she got into a fight with two women and had several charges brought against her in another county. We bailed her out and my parents paid for an attorney. She was placed into a rehab facility for 90 days.
Once she returned back to my parents house after the rehab, she moved in with the difficult child boyfriend (June 2007).
In October, she put her arm through a window at their apartment after having a fight with him and is lucky to still have the arm. Surgeon said it will be at least 1 and 1/2 years before she has use of the arm and he said she will not have FULL use ever. She is going to physical therapy twice a week currently. No car, so my retired mother takes her.
Received a phone call yesterday from her and she is 10 weeks pregnant. I know it is true because my mother drove her to her OB appointment. Lord help her as she cannot take care of herself, how is she going to handle a baby.
Anyway, my point about Christmas is that my husband and difficult child have not seen or spoke to each other in about 3 months, so I know the tension will be so thick in our house. My husband says what he wants and doesn't think about how it will hurt her feelings.
Just venting really, no need to try and solve my problem. I guess I will just say lots of prayers and hope the tension is not too bad and that maybe we can enjoy being all together under one roof.
Our difficult child has not lived in our home since her last stint at juvi when she was 17 1/2. She was constantly in trouble with the law (stealing, fights, drugs). After 45 days in juvi and weekly appearances in court, the judge decided to place her with my parents (against our wishes as we thought she needed some structured setting, where she could get mental theraphy as well). That lasted three months until she turned 18 and then she got picked up with several drugs on her possession. Her public defender from juvi went with her to adult court and she was placed on probation through the drug court.
While on probation, she got into a fight with two women and had several charges brought against her in another county. We bailed her out and my parents paid for an attorney. She was placed into a rehab facility for 90 days.
Once she returned back to my parents house after the rehab, she moved in with the difficult child boyfriend (June 2007).
In October, she put her arm through a window at their apartment after having a fight with him and is lucky to still have the arm. Surgeon said it will be at least 1 and 1/2 years before she has use of the arm and he said she will not have FULL use ever. She is going to physical therapy twice a week currently. No car, so my retired mother takes her.
Received a phone call yesterday from her and she is 10 weeks pregnant. I know it is true because my mother drove her to her OB appointment. Lord help her as she cannot take care of herself, how is she going to handle a baby.
Anyway, my point about Christmas is that my husband and difficult child have not seen or spoke to each other in about 3 months, so I know the tension will be so thick in our house. My husband says what he wants and doesn't think about how it will hurt her feelings.
Just venting really, no need to try and solve my problem. I guess I will just say lots of prayers and hope the tension is not too bad and that maybe we can enjoy being all together under one roof.
