Maybe we were finally ready to listen. After all, Kay is 33 and this game has been playing for over a decade. But the idea of accepting what is, even if we wish it were different, just clicked with my husband and me. After all, the alternative is for us to suffer and nothing to change anyway.
This book touched me in every aspect of life, even in areas not related to Kay. To me I see how much better I feel on a spiritual level when I just go where God is taking me.
I personally sit with God a lot and do not feel that I am supposed to interrupt Kay's learning path. I feel as if we overstayed our welcome, that at her age she is her own responsibility and that she knows what to do, but is just lazy. Or in her own denial.
At any rate, at 33 most people are functioning well. Kay and Lee need to learn how or else little Jaden will end up probably in my other daughter's care of with Lee's parents. They are a decade younger than us.
It took my husband and I over a decade, thousands upon thousands of dollars, being robbed, being abused, being lied to, seeing no change, almost getting divorced and aging to finally realize that God wants us to get out of the way. Kay would be doing great if His plan had been for us to sacrifice our lives for hers.
So now we accept her as she is and know that only she can walk her path for the better or the worse. It stopped being our responsibility when Kay turned 21, but we continued. Now she acts helpless yet she is able bodied and not unintelligent. She can work. Although she claims anxiety and depression, she won't seek help for either and considers pot the cure.
Also we have many employees that have the same diagnosis. I don't believe these issues stop you from working. Considering she has anxiety, or says so, our Kay sure takes many dangerous risks in her life. She could be lying. This is somebody who went skydiving and also snuck around dangerous neighborhoods for drugs. With anxiety?
We are finally in acceptance. Whatever it is, it is. We both feel so much calmer.
