You know, I don't recall if he had the questionaires or not. I know I filled them out, but I don't recall for who. I will have to look.
And actually, this makes me recall, the neuropsychologist's report (but this is long after the devped said "not autistic") said they could see where we were getting autistic traits from, but they beleived it was due to his activity level. They weren't able to test him thoroughly because they couldn't keep up with him. I would argue they couldn't keep up with him because after a short while, he became so anxious about where I was (which is noted in the report), to the point of excluding and ignoring anything they were trying to do. Ignoring this, the testers then got the hyper reaction of him under the table/on the table/under the chairs/making noise, etc (which is also noted in the report). They deduced his inability to socialize was more aptly caused by his inabliity to sit still.
Yet I can't tell you how many times I would take difficult child to the park, where he LOVED to be, and there would be groups of 4 or 5 kids roughly his age there, and if they attempted to play with him, 9 times out of 10 he would spit on them - even if they just asked him to play. If they pursued it, he became physically violent towards them. Those kids were running around playing the same things as difficult child, but he wanted no part of participation WITH them, tho he usually stayed relatively close to their group.
Which we thought was parallell play, but again, docs don't see this.
He rode his bike without training wheels right at 3 years of age, and he'd ride circles around the kids playing, and travel with them as they moved around the park, but rarely interacted with them until after he started at the early intervention school.
The first time he interacted with a boy at the park was when a boy we didn't know had a birthday party there and had a squish ball. It was flat and you threw it, then it popped open into a regular round ball shape. difficult child was amazed by the ball and played catch with this boy and another child, but it was because of the ball.
He can socialize and play with kids now, and is capable of it being appropriate, tho he really has to work on it.
You know, he also toe walked and hand-flapped down the hallway to the testing room, which is noted in the report...which makes me also remember that he used to hand flap all the time, which I've posted about here before, too. If he was excited or anxious, he would make his hands flap like you do if you're making your hands "talk" like a puppet. If he was mildy excited or anxious, he would do it to his sides, but the more excited he got, the higher his hands got. The day of testing, the flapping down the hall was above his head. Flapping decreased in early intervention preschool when we started making him aware of the position and actions of arms and legs, keeping them appropriate in prep for kindergarten (we asked all the time "Are your hands 'just right'?" meaning, are they in an acceptable position and doing acceptable things)
