To recap, two weeks ago he was buying frozen food at Walgreen's and putting it on the Express Pay credit card instead of paying for it himself out of his own funds. He did this because his LINK card was out of money, for some inexplicable reason. We told him he was not to do this anymore.
Then the texts started about how he was going to starve. And how he lost his Lyrica prescription which can't be called in. (It is an off label treatment for anxiety. Read the reviews...wonderful wonderful. But not for difficult child. Almost everything he takes, he finds some intolerable side effect. He's tried so many different drugs, very few work out for him.)
I told him to call about the lost prescription. Did he do that? No. Instead he started taking some Gabapentin, which he had left over,which is a weaker form of the Lyrica, but not enough to treat his anxiety, because he says both these medications cause some cognitive symptoms like word finding difficulties, even though he said the Lyrica was helping him focus at work.
So now he is having problems at work with extreme restlessness and inability to focus, even though it is a repetitive no brainer job. And some woman at work is bullying him. I implored him to call the employment specialist at the social service agency and get her involved.
He called me Tuesday night and it was very unsettling.
He called my husband yesterday, said he had called off work because he was too depressed and anxious to go in. Asked him if he wanted to see a movie. Husband was able to take off work early, took him to a movie and out for a sandwich. He felt better. He went to the gym and a meeting that night.
He wants to move back home. I told him no. My therapist and his caseworker also advised against this.
House manager told him he needs a higher level of care. THERE IS NO HIGHER LEVEL OF CARE. Supported apartment/group home has been applied for. The waiting list is 2 to 3 years long. This is in Illinois.
He meets with caseworker every week. They went over finances. He is spending a third of his disposable income on cigarettes. He says no supplements lately. The other third is for netflix, pandora, podcast. I told him he could feed himself on 60.00 a week. I may take him shopping and show him how this weekend.
Part of the issue is that he's got this non verbal learning disability which makes it hard for him to organize his time. He gets overwhelmed very easily by the demands of everyday life. This causes stress, anxiety, and depression.
Maybe I should just quit my job and take care of him.
I'll post more later. Going shopping with girlfriend now. Husband and I had some wine last night. We are focusing on ourselves, because it seems that the drama will never end anyway!
Then the texts started about how he was going to starve. And how he lost his Lyrica prescription which can't be called in. (It is an off label treatment for anxiety. Read the reviews...wonderful wonderful. But not for difficult child. Almost everything he takes, he finds some intolerable side effect. He's tried so many different drugs, very few work out for him.)
I told him to call about the lost prescription. Did he do that? No. Instead he started taking some Gabapentin, which he had left over,which is a weaker form of the Lyrica, but not enough to treat his anxiety, because he says both these medications cause some cognitive symptoms like word finding difficulties, even though he said the Lyrica was helping him focus at work.
So now he is having problems at work with extreme restlessness and inability to focus, even though it is a repetitive no brainer job. And some woman at work is bullying him. I implored him to call the employment specialist at the social service agency and get her involved.
He called me Tuesday night and it was very unsettling.
He called my husband yesterday, said he had called off work because he was too depressed and anxious to go in. Asked him if he wanted to see a movie. Husband was able to take off work early, took him to a movie and out for a sandwich. He felt better. He went to the gym and a meeting that night.
He wants to move back home. I told him no. My therapist and his caseworker also advised against this.
House manager told him he needs a higher level of care. THERE IS NO HIGHER LEVEL OF CARE. Supported apartment/group home has been applied for. The waiting list is 2 to 3 years long. This is in Illinois.
He meets with caseworker every week. They went over finances. He is spending a third of his disposable income on cigarettes. He says no supplements lately. The other third is for netflix, pandora, podcast. I told him he could feed himself on 60.00 a week. I may take him shopping and show him how this weekend.
Part of the issue is that he's got this non verbal learning disability which makes it hard for him to organize his time. He gets overwhelmed very easily by the demands of everyday life. This causes stress, anxiety, and depression.
Maybe I should just quit my job and take care of him.
I'll post more later. Going shopping with girlfriend now. Husband and I had some wine last night. We are focusing on ourselves, because it seems that the drama will never end anyway!
Really, it was best that my parents did not give me a place to fall or I would have used it. It was the easy way.
