welcometowitsend
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difficult child's school attendance has been pretty spotty this year. Around the beginning of November he made a promise to himself that he was going to do better, and he did. For about 3 weeks. Since then his attendance has been going downhill to the point that he only attended 7 of 15 classes last week and has only attended 2 classes so far this week.
I'm not sure if he has just given up these courses as failed so why bother or if he's up to something.
He is still lying all the time so it's hard to tell. I asked him about school yesterday. I didn't tell him I knew he'd missed so much school because he could go to the school (because he is not living at home) and get himself emancipated and then they won't talk to me at all.... so he said to me "I'm looking forward to Christmas break. God knows I could use a break from school." ha!
I just said "Uh huh." Confronting him about his lies only worsens our relationship. He doesn't even admit to lying, ever, even when it is blatantly in his face that he's been caught. He won't recognize it.
I have called the school twice and not gotten a call back yet. To my knowledge they have done nothing, not even talked to him about his abysmal attendance record. Last year he missed 20% of his classes. My guess is that this year he is closer to 45-50% overall.
I've got a call into the guidance counsellor as well. He is supposed to be seeing him on a regular basis since the whole suicide issue at school at the end of September.
Any ideas on how to approach this situation? It looks like he is going downhill again. I also checked his email account and by the inbox messages I can tell he has been visiting porn sites again and communicating with another girl he met last year. This indicates to me that he is likely starting the cycle he did last year when he was grooming/flirting with several different girls at the same time he was dating the 'love of his life' and viewing some pretty hardcore nasty porn. If he is bipolar I wonder if this is part of a manic cycle for him - the sexual stuff and school attendance issues.
We leave Wednesday for Florida and I'm worried now. Haven't said anything to husband or easy child. I doubt I can get in to see psychiatrist as his next appointment isn't until April (that was the soonest they said they could give him) and I'm not sure what would be worse - leaving him as he is until we get back or trying to get him on a new medication and then being gone. Sigh.
I'm not sure if he has just given up these courses as failed so why bother or if he's up to something.
He is still lying all the time so it's hard to tell. I asked him about school yesterday. I didn't tell him I knew he'd missed so much school because he could go to the school (because he is not living at home) and get himself emancipated and then they won't talk to me at all.... so he said to me "I'm looking forward to Christmas break. God knows I could use a break from school." ha!
I just said "Uh huh." Confronting him about his lies only worsens our relationship. He doesn't even admit to lying, ever, even when it is blatantly in his face that he's been caught. He won't recognize it.
I have called the school twice and not gotten a call back yet. To my knowledge they have done nothing, not even talked to him about his abysmal attendance record. Last year he missed 20% of his classes. My guess is that this year he is closer to 45-50% overall.
I've got a call into the guidance counsellor as well. He is supposed to be seeing him on a regular basis since the whole suicide issue at school at the end of September.
Any ideas on how to approach this situation? It looks like he is going downhill again. I also checked his email account and by the inbox messages I can tell he has been visiting porn sites again and communicating with another girl he met last year. This indicates to me that he is likely starting the cycle he did last year when he was grooming/flirting with several different girls at the same time he was dating the 'love of his life' and viewing some pretty hardcore nasty porn. If he is bipolar I wonder if this is part of a manic cycle for him - the sexual stuff and school attendance issues.
We leave Wednesday for Florida and I'm worried now. Haven't said anything to husband or easy child. I doubt I can get in to see psychiatrist as his next appointment isn't until April (that was the soonest they said they could give him) and I'm not sure what would be worse - leaving him as he is until we get back or trying to get him on a new medication and then being gone. Sigh.