I have not posted in a long time. I have been living a sort of nightmare—the kind we all have experienced at various times with our wayward adult kids. I am still processing what has happened in the span of just a couple months.
Long story short— my son, age 20, who claimed to only smoke marijuana for the longest time, started using meth and other substances for a cheap high when pot wasn’t available. He didn’t last through two treatment facilities in two years. He gets kicked out for breaking rules or getting in altercations. He’s been homeless off and on for a couple years.
He was living in another state and committed a senseless crime of destruction that I feel was most likely a result of his meth use. He is currently in jail in that state and charged with two felonies, I will not bond him out. He still has several court appearances ahead of him and will eventually be sentenced. He has a lawyer in the other state to represent him in court.
After meth his whole personality changed. He became mean and confrontational. Also said some weird stuff that sounded like psychosis (sort of grandiose thoughts about his powers) but he was still coherent and could function. He had been in contact with us from jail and the relationship was ok even given all the chaos going on. He still loved us and expressed it often. And still does. That’s a good thing and I’m grateful for it.
Apparently he acted out in jail and they put him in solitary confinement for a couple weeks and we heard nothing. He’s been in touch after solitary but something is clearly different now. I feel like he lost his mind in solitary. He was already in a pretty fragile state after being homeless, using drugs and had some mental health issues for which he stopped taking medication when he turned 18 because he didn’t think he needed it (mood disorder-undiagnosed, ADHD, depression) and he has mild Asperger’s.
He has called here many times but we haven’t been able to carry on a conversation that really has any meaning. He babbles, thinks he is certain action figures, has been in contact with dead celebrities, is obsessed with a friend from high school, his crush, whom he thinks is meant to be with him. Most of the time he is pretty much incoherently mumbling. Seriously, he is not functioning in any normal sense. If he were here I would try to have him committed I am so concerned. He was not like this the day he first called me from jail.
It is scary knowing this is happening and he is behind bars. And probably will be for awhile.
I have never, ever seen him like this. He has had a psychotic break or something and I am many hours away and don’t know what I can do. He desperately needs help. He is not covered by insurance and apparently there is no free medical care for inmates in this state. We are willing to pay for treatment, if he can get it in jail or anywhere, actually, although a residential type placement might be cost prohibitive without insurance. We would pay for insurance if there is something like that for inmates.
I am just beginning to research things and try to understand his rights, if any. I know nothing about jail. So, if anyone does and could give me some advice for a situation like this, I’d really appreciate it. I just don’t know what’s out there or where to begin. Or if the jail even cares? But it’s very worrisome. Any advice or suggestions are welcome. Thank you.
Long story short— my son, age 20, who claimed to only smoke marijuana for the longest time, started using meth and other substances for a cheap high when pot wasn’t available. He didn’t last through two treatment facilities in two years. He gets kicked out for breaking rules or getting in altercations. He’s been homeless off and on for a couple years.
He was living in another state and committed a senseless crime of destruction that I feel was most likely a result of his meth use. He is currently in jail in that state and charged with two felonies, I will not bond him out. He still has several court appearances ahead of him and will eventually be sentenced. He has a lawyer in the other state to represent him in court.
After meth his whole personality changed. He became mean and confrontational. Also said some weird stuff that sounded like psychosis (sort of grandiose thoughts about his powers) but he was still coherent and could function. He had been in contact with us from jail and the relationship was ok even given all the chaos going on. He still loved us and expressed it often. And still does. That’s a good thing and I’m grateful for it.
Apparently he acted out in jail and they put him in solitary confinement for a couple weeks and we heard nothing. He’s been in touch after solitary but something is clearly different now. I feel like he lost his mind in solitary. He was already in a pretty fragile state after being homeless, using drugs and had some mental health issues for which he stopped taking medication when he turned 18 because he didn’t think he needed it (mood disorder-undiagnosed, ADHD, depression) and he has mild Asperger’s.
He has called here many times but we haven’t been able to carry on a conversation that really has any meaning. He babbles, thinks he is certain action figures, has been in contact with dead celebrities, is obsessed with a friend from high school, his crush, whom he thinks is meant to be with him. Most of the time he is pretty much incoherently mumbling. Seriously, he is not functioning in any normal sense. If he were here I would try to have him committed I am so concerned. He was not like this the day he first called me from jail.
It is scary knowing this is happening and he is behind bars. And probably will be for awhile.
I have never, ever seen him like this. He has had a psychotic break or something and I am many hours away and don’t know what I can do. He desperately needs help. He is not covered by insurance and apparently there is no free medical care for inmates in this state. We are willing to pay for treatment, if he can get it in jail or anywhere, actually, although a residential type placement might be cost prohibitive without insurance. We would pay for insurance if there is something like that for inmates.
I am just beginning to research things and try to understand his rights, if any. I know nothing about jail. So, if anyone does and could give me some advice for a situation like this, I’d really appreciate it. I just don’t know what’s out there or where to begin. Or if the jail even cares? But it’s very worrisome. Any advice or suggestions are welcome. Thank you.