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Signorina
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Didn't think to mention it when I introduced myself, but I have a brother - 8 years older than I (52 now)- who still is a difficult child in my own nuclear family.
He's volatile, my parents kicked him out at age 18, he has a train wreck of a marriage and in my opinion he is a lousy father to his own son who is the same age as my difficult child. Despite all that, he is a high paid, successful working adult whom seems to be a great person from a distance - but anyone who gets to know him more than casually realizes that he is a total PITA--difficult, temperamental, says one thing while does another, goes off on tangents, etc. He runs VERY hot and cold - every family occasion/holiday is a "will he or won't he" show up kinda thing. And if he does show up - we all act happy to see him. Know what I mean?? He can be generous and loving without a fault (tends to be generous) and then cold and unyielding the very next moment.
Our boys are the same age and apparently difficult child has been in touch with my brother's son (I know from his cell phone records, lots of texts back and forth a few days ago)
And now, on today's cell phone usage report - MY BROTHER HAS CALLED MY difficult child. Let me be clear. My brother calls no one. Not my elderly mother, not my other brother, he rarely returns even important business phone calls. Trying to get in touch with him is a futile and incredibly aggravating experience. Which is compounded by the fact that we all work in the same family business.
A normal brother would call his sibling to get the "real story" on what is happening. My brother won't. And he too is a rebel and is probably loving this. For years, we have kept our distance from this part of my family because my brother is difficult and unpredictable. And now my kid is likely intertwining himself with him...I am sure difficult child has asked for money and I am sure my brother will write him a check. And I don't have the emotional fortitude to call my brother right now. And even if I did, it's unlikely he would take my call.
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He's volatile, my parents kicked him out at age 18, he has a train wreck of a marriage and in my opinion he is a lousy father to his own son who is the same age as my difficult child. Despite all that, he is a high paid, successful working adult whom seems to be a great person from a distance - but anyone who gets to know him more than casually realizes that he is a total PITA--difficult, temperamental, says one thing while does another, goes off on tangents, etc. He runs VERY hot and cold - every family occasion/holiday is a "will he or won't he" show up kinda thing. And if he does show up - we all act happy to see him. Know what I mean?? He can be generous and loving without a fault (tends to be generous) and then cold and unyielding the very next moment.
Our boys are the same age and apparently difficult child has been in touch with my brother's son (I know from his cell phone records, lots of texts back and forth a few days ago)
And now, on today's cell phone usage report - MY BROTHER HAS CALLED MY difficult child. Let me be clear. My brother calls no one. Not my elderly mother, not my other brother, he rarely returns even important business phone calls. Trying to get in touch with him is a futile and incredibly aggravating experience. Which is compounded by the fact that we all work in the same family business.
A normal brother would call his sibling to get the "real story" on what is happening. My brother won't. And he too is a rebel and is probably loving this. For years, we have kept our distance from this part of my family because my brother is difficult and unpredictable. And now my kid is likely intertwining himself with him...I am sure difficult child has asked for money and I am sure my brother will write him a check. And I don't have the emotional fortitude to call my brother right now. And even if I did, it's unlikely he would take my call.
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