So I finally drove from NC to NJ and got to see my precious 11 year old granddaughter. Her other grandmother really helped getting my daughter to agree. Please read my previous posts to understand what has been going on. My granddaughter was beyond excited to see my son and I. The smile on her face was priceless. We stayed in a hotel for three nights with her. We went to the movies, bowling and played go fish and UNO. We played tennis and went fishing and out for ice cream and meals. It was like the past 9 months being alienated from her didn’t exist. So my daughter dropped her off at a rest stop because her new address is so top secret. I found out where she lives anyway. We are cordial and make small talk. Then off for the three day weekend with my granddaughter. She was so cuddly and sweet. She missed us terribly. She said she doesn’t think about sad stuff though. Like missing me and her dad overdosed last July and passed away in front of her. She isn’t in any counseling. My daughter then agrees to meet us the next day for lunch. Never offers to pay for her food. Never apologized to me for alienation of my granddaughter. So again we make small talk. I tell her I have had her 5 year old son she abandoned a year ago visit with me a few times. I showed her pics of him on my phone. She looks at the pics then immediately starts complaining how her ex is now making her pay $25 a week child support for him. She said she has two kids to take care of already. One has the father there the other gets social security money every month from her dad dying. Not one kind word or interest in her middle child. He means nothing at all to her. She was on drugs off and on mostly on and in jail since he was born. Last March 2018 she went to see him for the day. Of course only to try to get money out of her ex. No contact since then. I told my daughter I love her but if she wants me in her life she knows my number if not ok. So my granddaughter tells me that my daughter and the third baby daddy and current boyfriend and her fight and scream constantly. My daughter threatened calling the police on him. Tells my granddaughter that he is beating on her and my granddaughter says there are never any marks on her. She says she is ok being there but she told my daughter a few times in front of me she wanted to move close to me. To be near her family. She and my daughter say the new baby cries constantly and is up at night and is hard to console. What the heck do I do now ? I guess just wait for my daughter to relapse or for her and boyfriend to half kill each other. She has been clean for 15 months but has lupus and is on methotrexate for symptoms. I am exhausted from this.