2much2recover
Well-Known Member
I have been around for a few weeks and have been following all of your posts. Today I am feeling really down and sad because my difficult child has so many traits of a sociopath I really can not be around her. Everything is a game to her and gas-lighting me and my emotions is a sport for her. She, with so much pride will gladly tell anyone that she is a master manipulator and trust me she is.
I am back in therapy myself to both deal with chronic pain issues and the crushing pain of having to wall off my emotions from my only child.
I just searched the forums and not much there with parents dealing with a sociopath for a child.
My daughter is 40 years old and her trajectory has been much different from some here because she IS a sociopath. She is more the white-collar-criminal-that-is-legally-schooled in how to use and manipulate people in any situation - even LAWYERS and big Corporate CEO's who should no better. I can definitely understand so many of your situations because, well, basically, there pretty much hasn't been much that I haven't been there/done that with difficult child. But now educated with a home of her own, if/when I try to interact with difficult child - she absolutely loves to "play the sociopath game". With my ill health I can't cope with it anymore. Having said that it is sooo....painful to be in a position to HAVE to stay away from your child.
It would be easy to say, just hang with her when she is acting OK, but once I head down that path I get lost in the maze of a highly intelligent manipulator.
Anyway just having a rough day as it feels so lonely not to have a relationship without my only child.
I plan on staying around for a while because it helps me to clarify my own thoughts and remind me the tough road I have been down and why I don't want to go down that road again.
I know, boo-hoo- poor me!
I am back in therapy myself to both deal with chronic pain issues and the crushing pain of having to wall off my emotions from my only child.
I just searched the forums and not much there with parents dealing with a sociopath for a child.
My daughter is 40 years old and her trajectory has been much different from some here because she IS a sociopath. She is more the white-collar-criminal-that-is-legally-schooled in how to use and manipulate people in any situation - even LAWYERS and big Corporate CEO's who should no better. I can definitely understand so many of your situations because, well, basically, there pretty much hasn't been much that I haven't been there/done that with difficult child. But now educated with a home of her own, if/when I try to interact with difficult child - she absolutely loves to "play the sociopath game". With my ill health I can't cope with it anymore. Having said that it is sooo....painful to be in a position to HAVE to stay away from your child.
It would be easy to say, just hang with her when she is acting OK, but once I head down that path I get lost in the maze of a highly intelligent manipulator.
Anyway just having a rough day as it feels so lonely not to have a relationship without my only child.
I plan on staying around for a while because it helps me to clarify my own thoughts and remind me the tough road I have been down and why I don't want to go down that road again.
I know, boo-hoo- poor me!