Hi-I am brand new to this type of group, not even sure how to post-I started a new thread. I have 4 children and my oldest is nearly 19. I have witnessed a complete 180 over the past year. I can tell that many of you can certainly relate. He abuses drugs, sells them, and is often involved with awful people, doing awful things. He has health issues-congenital heart disease & a more recent liver disorder that no Dr or specialist has diagnosed or treated which caused him to loose over 70lbs &, I believe, has been a contributing factor in the other changes. I have 3 children that are younger; I do not want them to see him when he is using, I do not want the disruption to my house, I no longer trust him or anyone he associates with so he has made my home feel dangerous when he is near. Of all 4 kids he occupies more time & energy than the other 3, combined. He has not hit rock bottom for me to be able to demand inpatient treatment. After this past week I realize he must not live with me. There are still plenty of people who will enable him. I am scared, I feel helpless, I feel like I have failed, in epic size proportion.