He's at it again

[ThreeShadows]

Good morning, Terry.
I guess I need to make my sig more clear. difficult child 2 is 22, single, no kids, VERY secretive about his private life. He was living with us until recently, not participating in family life. He is promiscuous, slept with his twin's girlfriend (insert vomiting sounds here). I just tried to clean his room and found a hard core porn mag but no female undies.

We got NO help in dealing with the stealing the undies episodes. When you get answers about why your son does it, I would love some clarification because I am lost as to difficult child 2's problems. I know it's too late for him but I am tired of being made to feel like a prude due to my age and upbringing. I cannot imagine that it's ever okay to throw condoms and sanitary napkins at one another, even in these days.

 

[Shari]

Good luck with the remodel. I wonder if thank you has a "minor home makeover" team that would take this on? Poor easy child.

Hugs to you all.

 

[DaisyFace]

He never took it seriously, said girls throw tampons at boys in school and boys throw condoms.

Excuse me, but what a crock of {insert preferred expletive here!}!!

Folks throw lots of unpleasant stuff...that doesn't mean you take it home and make a keepsake collection out of it! Disgusting and way off base, in my opinion.

Porn...well, that's pretty common. I might be more worried and upset at certain types of porn than others...bestiality, S/M, anything involving children.

Is it possible that these boys are taking their sister's/mother's undies just because those are the undies that are close at hand...and not necessarily because they belong to her in particular? I know that many of our difficult children are socially clueless--perhaps they don't understand about the boundaries that should exist between relatives? Is it possible that they are exploring their sexuality in a way that makes sense to them...but is offensive to those of us around them? Is that the issue that needs to be explored with the therapist?

Just wondering...

--DaisyF

 

[TerryJ2]

Yes, Daisy, we have to get the therapist to discuss the idea that difficult child's sister is a real person with-real feelings and not just an available source of undies, $, or transportation!

We have sooo much to talk about at our appointment ...

Ohh, ThreeShadows, that's different. Oh well. I will certainly let you know if I learn the answer to this one!

by the way, speaking of throwing personal items at one another, I know of some adults who were thrown out of a Halloween party this yr. They were dressed as c*ndoms. It was a Halloween party with-children and they KNEW that kids would be there, and dressed like that anyway. It went from tacky to obscene. Grrrr.