Dear Beta That the apology was verbal or text does not alter it. He apologized. It sounds to me that each of you goes back to their bunkers in retreat, to safety. He lobs verbal grenades which seems to be the only defense he has. You use your tank, by blocking him. The challenge for each of you, for now, is to go back behind your lines, to a place where you can be safe, to nurse your wounds and to be able to operate whole. For you, I don't believe this involves Josh, for now. And he is telling you clearly that he can't handle you, and feel intact, without aggressive verbal assaults. Your challenge is to tolerate that, and to be okay. Not to tolerate that he insult you, but that he needs to be separate. He is asking that of you, I believe. For now. It seems he experiences your attempts to be close as provocation. In the only way he can he is asking you, I think, to respect his desire to have distance, for now. This is very, very hard for us. I have lived this too.