I could control my anger, Mom...

[flutterbee]

First of all, I'd like to know how *I'm* responsible for ALL of your kiddos' tantrums?!! Geez....I get blamed for EVERYTHING! :rofl:

Star - We have talked about it and I admit to times when I've been cranky because of fatigue or pain. She's always said I'm mean, though. If I disagree with her - no matter how diplomatic I am about it and how much I weigh my words (and trust me...I do weigh my words very carefully with her) - I'm mean. It's one of those no-win situations. She listed examples last night, but she was all attitude, so I tuned her out after the I'm mean part. :wink:

Peaceful - :rofl: Too funny! difficult child is so funny about that stuff, though. If I even mentioned that word in relation to her she'd die of mortification right in front of me.

BBK - Sounds like Tink took some pages from Wynter's playbook. When easy child was 10, before he got real sick, he told me he was going to run away. I told him he wasn't allowed. Apparently, he hadn't thought about that and wasn't ready for that response. He thought about it for a minute and then said he was going to kill himself. I asked him how he was going to do that. He said he was going to hold his breath. I told him to let me know how that works out for him.

She got her ears pierced and had money to spend at Claire's on earrings. She was in a good mood after and I asked her why she didn't want to take her medications and she said that she just really hates taking pills...that it makes her gag. So, she's going to go back to putting it in pudding or yogurt.

Guess she didn't want to lose her laptop afterall.

Thanks for the support, ladies. I was all geared up in my warrior outfit. Hopefully, won't need it. :smile:

(I'm not meaning to leave anyone out by not addressing everyone individually. I hope you'll forgive me. My head is tired...having a hard time concentrating.)

 

[Star*]

OIC - she's manipulating the situation to her best advantage.

Heck - send her to live with me for a week - she'd think she'd gone to heck in a popsicle cart.

 

[flutterbee]

Star -

Right. It's...you're mean, Mom, will you take me shopping?

She may not be physically destructive or violent, but she has the psychological warfare down to a science. And she has stamina, let me tell you. This kid could would wear a saint down.

Fortunately, her mother is stubborn as an ox. :devil:

 

[tiredmommy]

I thought I'd post the Mean Mom poem, it's an oldy but a goody:

Mean Moms

Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm glad I won them, because in the end you won, too. And someday when your children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them....Was your Mom mean? I know mine was. We had the meanest mother in the whole world!

While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast.
When others had Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches. and you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was different from what other kids had, too.

Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and what we were doing with them. She insisted that if we said we would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.

We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the Child Labour Laws by making us work. We had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie awake at night thinking of more things for us to do.

She always insisted on us telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. By the time we were teenagers, she could read our minds. Then, life was really tough!
Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn when they drove up. They had to come up to the door so she could meet them. While everyone else could date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were 16. Because of our mother we missed out on a lots of things other kids experienced. None of us have ever been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her fault.

Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults. We are doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was. I think that is what's wrong with the world today. It just doesn't have enough mean moms.

 

[susiestar]

Hey, if you are that powerful, can you fix my kids too??

I will take the laptop. Will trade you a box of broken toys my kids never play with but are CRUCIAL to their happiness! You can tell her you got her something special!!!

Does refusing medications mean you go out and get just enough donuts for your older child and yourself, and a box of some gross cereal she hates for her? And no tv except whatever seh hates and the rest of you can tolerate, no books (unless that is something she hates) and stuff like that?

Sounds like fun. I wish I were as powerful as you!

 

[flutterbee]

I wish I were as powerful as I supposedly am, too!

I figure when I told that I'm mean it just means I'm doing my job. difficult child doesn't realize it, but it's actually a compliment. She told me again tonight and I responded with, 'Well, practice makes perfect!' She was not amused. :devil: