Welcome. You have been through a lot! But, you have gained much wisdom. It sure does hurt a lot. The calls for money seem to be a common one among all of us. And also, I have noticed a lack of appreciation/gratefulness. I guess they are very often living on the edge and are just constantly in this mindset of lack/desperation. It's VERY sad. But also VERY draining and confusing for us parents. I agree that we can't control our adult children. We can't control the actions of others. As appropriate, we might make suggestions, but we absolutely can't count on them being listened to and we can't "invest" in that at all. This place is fabulous. If there are support groups in your community, that is good to check out as well. There is something called Families Anonymous that is very good. Also Al Anon programs for family members. It's very hard, but don't let the actions of your adult children chip away at your self esteem. Be sure to plan for fun things ... you deserve to enjoy life. Please keep on posting.
