You've done all you can Memedixie, you've done more than enough. Rest now. Get support. Nurture yourself. Be very kind to yourself.
As you may have read, an odd response many of us have is to be relieved and in fact, sometimes glad our adult difficult children are in jail. We can stop worrying, living in fear, wondering if they are alive or if they are stealing from us or doing any number of crummy things.......
I am sorry about the friend down the street passing, perhaps that will give your son something to ponder while he is incarcerated......
Hang in there Memedixie, you're doing the right thing. We're here for you.....
