I was talking with Jess a while ago and as usual she amazes me. We were talking about Wiz and when she was little. She said she never would hit him back or fight back because she knew something was wrong. "He would be so angry and hurt me and then 10 minutes later come in and read me a book. I knew you don't get past being angry this way so I knew he had a problem and needed help." she was FOUR when this was going on. We actually put her in tae kwon do to learn how to protect herself from him. The instructors said she was very strong, stronger than they expected when she kicked, and they knew the situation with Wiz. Sensei talked to her about it being OK to use what she learned if her brother was hurting her as long as she just used it to stop the fight and protect herself. This Sensei trained people who went to they Olympics and he was very wise and incredible. HE was impressed when she said no, she wouldn't use it because it might hurt him. Every once in a while I get flashes of what things were like and I realize just how amazing each of my kids is. Jess especially. When she was 4 she described Wiz and the rages then calm as being "like a lightswitch". She realized there was a problem and Wiz needed help before husband did. Just wanted to share. This daughter of mine blows me away sometimes.