Wow, I reread the thread and can't believe it's been this long. Lots has happened since I last posted. My son has been in and out of my house, more calls to the police, he was facing jail time so finally agreed to rehab to avoid jail time. He's been in rehab for about 2 months now and is coming home in a couple of weeks. I am very nervous about this. He's been sober while in rehab and he says he is going to stay sober but I know that it is easier said than done. He plans on getting counselling and attending therapy sessions. I'm attending family support to be able to help support him when he returns. It won't be easy, but I am willing to give it a try.
My main issue now is that he has burned his bridges with our relatives. My daughter doesn't want anything to do with him. My sister and my Dad are very worried he is coming back, and my sister keeps telling me he can't act the way he did before. I know this, I don't need to be told this. I also know I can't control what he does when he comes back so I feel like I am failing everyone by giving him another chance. I feel so alone. My family makes it sound like it should be easy to set boundaries. If it were easy I would have done this years ago. So, I feel like such a failure and just want to go hide somewhere. I only have one sister, they don't have any kids so they don't really understand the attachment we have with our kids. I feel like I've been abandoned by everyone because I am giving my son yet another chance. It makes me so sad. I feel like I am being forced to choose between my family and my son. Does anyone else have to make the choice between their family and their addicted child? I know if my husband were still alive, he would be doing the same - making me make the choice of him or my son. I just paid literally thousands of dollars for his rehab. I know if I sent him to the homeless shelter he wouldn't stand a chance to stay sober. I guess I am looking for validation that what I am doing is the right thing to do. My son has no friends, so he has no where else to go either.