I haven't updated in a while but things are going south. difficult child had chance after chance at the last program she was in but decided to move a new halfway house when she got yet another job that was an hour away from where she was. She managed to find a halfway house that would let her take Ativan and as her therapist said, "We all know where this is going." So she was discharged from the wonderful program that she was in and moved to the new halfway house.
Well, the job lasted about a week. She kept sending emails asking us for money for bus fare but we refused. She had managed to get back and forth for training and for her "spa" day so we felt that she was just using that as an excuse to get us to give her money.
We had a contract while she was in the last program and it stated that if she relapsed all financial support would immediately cease. She relapsed and we followed through with the full support of her therapist. As she put it, if we gave in now we would be supporting difficult child until the day we died.
difficult child has been emailing husband since he changed his number and I have her number blocked. She said that she was going to sell her car (which is not working anyway) and we ignored the emails. Then, today, I got three voice messages left on my cell phone. It turned out that they were collect calls from the psychiatric hospital. husband called the hospital and found out that she had been there and been discharged right when difficult child was calling us collect from the hospital.
So as far as we know, she is homeless and no longer has a phone. I know that if we rescue her again that this cycle will never stop.
Yet, it is so hard to think of how distraught she must be even though she has brought this all on herself.
Tell me if we are doing the right thing.
~Kathy
Well, the job lasted about a week. She kept sending emails asking us for money for bus fare but we refused. She had managed to get back and forth for training and for her "spa" day so we felt that she was just using that as an excuse to get us to give her money.
We had a contract while she was in the last program and it stated that if she relapsed all financial support would immediately cease. She relapsed and we followed through with the full support of her therapist. As she put it, if we gave in now we would be supporting difficult child until the day we died.
difficult child has been emailing husband since he changed his number and I have her number blocked. She said that she was going to sell her car (which is not working anyway) and we ignored the emails. Then, today, I got three voice messages left on my cell phone. It turned out that they were collect calls from the psychiatric hospital. husband called the hospital and found out that she had been there and been discharged right when difficult child was calling us collect from the hospital.
So as far as we know, she is homeless and no longer has a phone. I know that if we rescue her again that this cycle will never stop.
Yet, it is so hard to think of how distraught she must be even though she has brought this all on herself.
Tell me if we are doing the right thing.
~Kathy