daywithkitten
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Ok, here it is. I'm so glad I found this website. After reading many of the post, I decided to post my own in hopes of some advice or suggestions.
We have a 27 year old, mother of 3, drug addict living in our house. I married a wonderful man with 3 children, one who has down syndrome. But it's his daughter who is problem. We have gone through this for years. We went through this with his older son who is now serving a two year sentence for fraud. His drug of choice was/is heroin. His stealing identities to support his drug habit is what put him in jail. We were able to throw him out, but this daughter is running my life. She has an addiction to prescription medications. Her drug of choice is pain killers and mood disorders pills.
Anyway, about 2 weeks before Christmas, she takes/steals our 1 car, goes to her drug dealer and wreaks it. That was the start of a very long overdue battle. Of course, we became angry, but did we give her any consequences, NO.
But that very same night, after her very smart Alec ways of giving us instructions on how the keys would be handled for the boyfriends borrowed car, I lost my mind. Its the first time in my life I ever wanted to BEAT the living crap out of someone. My husband stopped me.
We continued with our daily course of business, until it started again.
After, many, many attempt to either kick her out or take her to rehab for her addiction, I decided to leave. Her and I almost came to blows. I went to my daughter's house because I knew if I stayed someone wss going to get hurt. Need I mention the language that flew across the air wold make a sailor blush.
So.. my demand was either she MOVE out or check into a rehab. I told my husband I wasn't coming home until she did one of the two choices.
A few days roll by and MY HUSBAND, packs his belongings and the two other children and moves 5 hours away to live with his brother. OMG, I never in my wildest dreams thought he'd do that. We love each other very much and he said he left because of his health. He is a heart and stroke patient. The battle his daughter and I were creating was killing him. He retired in 2012 by the advice of 2 of his doctors. The doctors told us he is to have NO STRESS in his life. All of the kids know this. Now, we are both out of our home and SHE IS STILL THERE, because she has no where to go. She had burned all her bridges we all her friends. Mostly, because of stealing from them or borrowing, never repaying or getting into profanity speaking fights.
Anyway, I feel so stupid for letting this get way out of hand. I really thought my husband would take a stand and force/help her into rehab or just taking her to whatever friend was left.
Please advise. Im in fear that if I go back to the house, I'll be the one in the hospital. She's young and strong enough to woop me. Thank you for reading.
We have a 27 year old, mother of 3, drug addict living in our house. I married a wonderful man with 3 children, one who has down syndrome. But it's his daughter who is problem. We have gone through this for years. We went through this with his older son who is now serving a two year sentence for fraud. His drug of choice was/is heroin. His stealing identities to support his drug habit is what put him in jail. We were able to throw him out, but this daughter is running my life. She has an addiction to prescription medications. Her drug of choice is pain killers and mood disorders pills.
Anyway, about 2 weeks before Christmas, she takes/steals our 1 car, goes to her drug dealer and wreaks it. That was the start of a very long overdue battle. Of course, we became angry, but did we give her any consequences, NO.
But that very same night, after her very smart Alec ways of giving us instructions on how the keys would be handled for the boyfriends borrowed car, I lost my mind. Its the first time in my life I ever wanted to BEAT the living crap out of someone. My husband stopped me.
We continued with our daily course of business, until it started again.
After, many, many attempt to either kick her out or take her to rehab for her addiction, I decided to leave. Her and I almost came to blows. I went to my daughter's house because I knew if I stayed someone wss going to get hurt. Need I mention the language that flew across the air wold make a sailor blush.
So.. my demand was either she MOVE out or check into a rehab. I told my husband I wasn't coming home until she did one of the two choices.
A few days roll by and MY HUSBAND, packs his belongings and the two other children and moves 5 hours away to live with his brother. OMG, I never in my wildest dreams thought he'd do that. We love each other very much and he said he left because of his health. He is a heart and stroke patient. The battle his daughter and I were creating was killing him. He retired in 2012 by the advice of 2 of his doctors. The doctors told us he is to have NO STRESS in his life. All of the kids know this. Now, we are both out of our home and SHE IS STILL THERE, because she has no where to go. She had burned all her bridges we all her friends. Mostly, because of stealing from them or borrowing, never repaying or getting into profanity speaking fights.
Anyway, I feel so stupid for letting this get way out of hand. I really thought my husband would take a stand and force/help her into rehab or just taking her to whatever friend was left.
Please advise. Im in fear that if I go back to the house, I'll be the one in the hospital. She's young and strong enough to woop me. Thank you for reading.