SuZir
Well-Known Member
I think it has been almost a year I last wrote here. I have checked every now and then, but never felt I had time to write. So some catching up.
Life has been hectic for me. First we had our respite kids as fosters most of the last summer. Luckily their mom was able to get rid off of the abusive boyfriend and CPS allowed kids back home. That was busy, they were rather challenging especially during those circumstances. Luckily they did calm down a bit after being placed back home and after they started to feel that the boyfriend was safely out of their life. However recently teen drama has been raising it's ugly head with Girlie and she has been with us a bit more than her respite weekend. I predict these few years will be quite a ride with her. Boyo took bit longer to stabilize but is doing al right now.
We had also some health situations in the extended family that got scary, but that is also okay now. Kept me busy though.
My work certainly has kept me busy too. I changed careers couple years ago after my PhD and new career is much more hours and travel. It is also much more interesting and rewarding. But makes me a bit of a dull girl at times.
Joy is doing well. Graduated, got accepted to good Uni for a field that will likely be a very good fit and is having a gap year for his military obligations. We mostly see him at weekends, so we did have a house for just me and husband most of the time last autumn.
Ache has also been doing quite well till now at least. The rTMS treatment has been working well for him and his mental state has been quite stable a year now. No suicidal gestures, limited self harm, functional and also socially mostly okay. He has also been able to pursue rehabilitative, intensive psychotherapy for his issues and he seems to has much less PTSD symptoms nowadays and what he has, are much less scary. He went back to the team he had a contract and to that town and had a really good first half of the season and early winter, but ended his season with an injury some time ago. Was home for a bit after operation, went back to team's town for the rest of the season and is coming back home soon as the season ended for his team just recently. The injury is serious for his sport career. He will not be able to play till maybe Christmas even if all goes reasonably well. His contract ends to this spring and I doubt anyone will want to sign him even with him doing very well this season before injury. Most likely he could find a team needing a replacement after he is okayed to play, but honestly I'm not sure if he plans to.
I'm not sure, it may frustration talking, or he may change his mind, or I have read him totally wrong, but I have an inkling he may take this injury as an opportunity to 'honourably discharge' from the sport. He loves it on the field, but everything else is such a struggle. After the injury he has been talking more about upcoming University entrance exams and if he actually would prefer med_school or agricultural school than getting back to field. He also mentioned how if he would not be able to play any more, the insurance would guarantee him five years almost a full pay to pursue his studies for other profession.
All in all, physically Ache is not in the greatest shape right now, but mentally seems to be quite okay for him. He is also still together with the girlfriend. Mostly a long distance thing, but they seem to have fun when they meet. Not sure how serious the relationship is at this point though.
Our older doggie is finally getting old and our youngster is finally getting bit over her terrible teen months
Life has been hectic for me. First we had our respite kids as fosters most of the last summer. Luckily their mom was able to get rid off of the abusive boyfriend and CPS allowed kids back home. That was busy, they were rather challenging especially during those circumstances. Luckily they did calm down a bit after being placed back home and after they started to feel that the boyfriend was safely out of their life. However recently teen drama has been raising it's ugly head with Girlie and she has been with us a bit more than her respite weekend. I predict these few years will be quite a ride with her. Boyo took bit longer to stabilize but is doing al right now.
We had also some health situations in the extended family that got scary, but that is also okay now. Kept me busy though.
My work certainly has kept me busy too. I changed careers couple years ago after my PhD and new career is much more hours and travel. It is also much more interesting and rewarding. But makes me a bit of a dull girl at times.
Joy is doing well. Graduated, got accepted to good Uni for a field that will likely be a very good fit and is having a gap year for his military obligations. We mostly see him at weekends, so we did have a house for just me and husband most of the time last autumn.
Ache has also been doing quite well till now at least. The rTMS treatment has been working well for him and his mental state has been quite stable a year now. No suicidal gestures, limited self harm, functional and also socially mostly okay. He has also been able to pursue rehabilitative, intensive psychotherapy for his issues and he seems to has much less PTSD symptoms nowadays and what he has, are much less scary. He went back to the team he had a contract and to that town and had a really good first half of the season and early winter, but ended his season with an injury some time ago. Was home for a bit after operation, went back to team's town for the rest of the season and is coming back home soon as the season ended for his team just recently. The injury is serious for his sport career. He will not be able to play till maybe Christmas even if all goes reasonably well. His contract ends to this spring and I doubt anyone will want to sign him even with him doing very well this season before injury. Most likely he could find a team needing a replacement after he is okayed to play, but honestly I'm not sure if he plans to.
I'm not sure, it may frustration talking, or he may change his mind, or I have read him totally wrong, but I have an inkling he may take this injury as an opportunity to 'honourably discharge' from the sport. He loves it on the field, but everything else is such a struggle. After the injury he has been talking more about upcoming University entrance exams and if he actually would prefer med_school or agricultural school than getting back to field. He also mentioned how if he would not be able to play any more, the insurance would guarantee him five years almost a full pay to pursue his studies for other profession.
All in all, physically Ache is not in the greatest shape right now, but mentally seems to be quite okay for him. He is also still together with the girlfriend. Mostly a long distance thing, but they seem to have fun when they meet. Not sure how serious the relationship is at this point though.
Our older doggie is finally getting old and our youngster is finally getting bit over her terrible teen months
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