100 likes to the person that can come up with a potential logical explanation for this. 
Also, apologies, because this might be a tad difficult to follow. I had breakfast the other day with a friend, the mom of a difficult child.....
Some might recall my post from months ago. Our Difficult Child has made friends in the neighborhood with a woman ten years her senior who is a professional woman and a widow. My daughter comes to her house fairly regularly. I would say three times a week! On occasion, she stays for dinner (I think). But, usually I think she just watches TV, sometimes with her, sometimes without. Fixes her computer. They seem to be friendly.
I had breakfast with a different neighborhood woman, more my age. We meet perhaps three times a year. Her daughter is a Difficult Child. My daughter knows her, but they don't get along. They are the same age. We (that mother and I) meet to sort of let our hair down and relax. It's always fun, relaxing and a good stress reliever.
However, recently my daughter told me that her daughter has been doing something weird. As far as I can tell, nothing particularly dangerous....but something I know the friend (the girl's mom) would not approve of. She (my daughter) made me promise not to tell and I agreed. Fortunately, nothing along those lines came up.
So, we were talking and I did ask her if she has heard of this adult woman in the neighborhood who my daughter has made friends with. She did NOT. However, she became alarmed. ???? She asked me her name. I gave the first name. She asked me what street she lived on. I told her. She asked me her last name and her exact address. I said I didn't recall. (Actually, I probably could of remembered if I concentrated, but felt awkward). She then WROTE DOWN THE FIRST NAME OF THIS WOMAN. She offered no explanation. I said that the woman to the best of my knowledge hasn't done anything inappropriate, but yes I do find it a little curious that she has become friends with my daughter, but that is all. She mumbled that she just wanted to write it down.
The, she told me some typical difficult child stuff her daughter had done recently, nothing earth shattering, but clearly annoying and I empathized with her.
Throughout the breakfast, she seemed stressed and sad. It was totally unlike previous meetings. I left there feeling kinda bad. She didn't seem forthwright and was downright peculiar in her interest in this new-ish friend of my daughter's who lives in the neighborhood. I probably made a mistake when I told her that my daughter said her daughter knew of the woman. My daughter says all the folks her age know of her. "Translation....all the difficult children know of her." I absolutely do not get the impression this woman is friends with my friend's daughter, but it is curious that she knows of her. Again, it's as if this woman befriends all the "difficult adult children" in the neighborhood. As if she is almost making a point of befriending all the difficult adult children around her.
So, why in the world would this woman (my friend) react so oddly? I guess it reminded me of the old days when I was hypervigiliant about our daughter...but this was when she was much much younger. Both of our adult children are in their late 20s.
Re reading this...I guess two questions emerge:
1. Why would my friend almost freak out about my daughter being friends with this adult woman, who she claims she doesn't know?
2. And although I wouldn't describe myself as freaked out over it, it is still rather curious as to why this adult professional woman has befriended my daughter and others like her in the area. She does seem nice and has been helpful. And interestingly, she complains to our daughter about any friends on drugs or doing things she doesn't approve of.
PS There is a small chance I might asked for this thread to be removed since it is of a personal nature.
Also, apologies, because this might be a tad difficult to follow. I had breakfast the other day with a friend, the mom of a difficult child.....Some might recall my post from months ago. Our Difficult Child has made friends in the neighborhood with a woman ten years her senior who is a professional woman and a widow. My daughter comes to her house fairly regularly. I would say three times a week! On occasion, she stays for dinner (I think). But, usually I think she just watches TV, sometimes with her, sometimes without. Fixes her computer. They seem to be friendly.
I had breakfast with a different neighborhood woman, more my age. We meet perhaps three times a year. Her daughter is a Difficult Child. My daughter knows her, but they don't get along. They are the same age. We (that mother and I) meet to sort of let our hair down and relax. It's always fun, relaxing and a good stress reliever.
However, recently my daughter told me that her daughter has been doing something weird. As far as I can tell, nothing particularly dangerous....but something I know the friend (the girl's mom) would not approve of. She (my daughter) made me promise not to tell and I agreed. Fortunately, nothing along those lines came up.
So, we were talking and I did ask her if she has heard of this adult woman in the neighborhood who my daughter has made friends with. She did NOT. However, she became alarmed. ???? She asked me her name. I gave the first name. She asked me what street she lived on. I told her. She asked me her last name and her exact address. I said I didn't recall. (Actually, I probably could of remembered if I concentrated, but felt awkward). She then WROTE DOWN THE FIRST NAME OF THIS WOMAN. She offered no explanation. I said that the woman to the best of my knowledge hasn't done anything inappropriate, but yes I do find it a little curious that she has become friends with my daughter, but that is all. She mumbled that she just wanted to write it down.
The, she told me some typical difficult child stuff her daughter had done recently, nothing earth shattering, but clearly annoying and I empathized with her.
Throughout the breakfast, she seemed stressed and sad. It was totally unlike previous meetings. I left there feeling kinda bad. She didn't seem forthwright and was downright peculiar in her interest in this new-ish friend of my daughter's who lives in the neighborhood. I probably made a mistake when I told her that my daughter said her daughter knew of the woman. My daughter says all the folks her age know of her. "Translation....all the difficult children know of her." I absolutely do not get the impression this woman is friends with my friend's daughter, but it is curious that she knows of her. Again, it's as if this woman befriends all the "difficult adult children" in the neighborhood. As if she is almost making a point of befriending all the difficult adult children around her.
So, why in the world would this woman (my friend) react so oddly? I guess it reminded me of the old days when I was hypervigiliant about our daughter...but this was when she was much much younger. Both of our adult children are in their late 20s.
Re reading this...I guess two questions emerge:
1. Why would my friend almost freak out about my daughter being friends with this adult woman, who she claims she doesn't know?
2. And although I wouldn't describe myself as freaked out over it, it is still rather curious as to why this adult professional woman has befriended my daughter and others like her in the area. She does seem nice and has been helpful. And interestingly, she complains to our daughter about any friends on drugs or doing things she doesn't approve of.
PS There is a small chance I might asked for this thread to be removed since it is of a personal nature.
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