Mikey, the whole point is that <u>HE DOESN'T HAVE TO AGREE TO GO</u>! Of course, if you ask him, he'll downplay it, say he didn't mean it, and refuse to go! What did you expect! Even if he was entirely serious when he wrote the note, he'll say that he wasn't! He should never have been confronted with it, should never have had it presented to him in a way that it became his choice whether he went or not! You should have just had them waiting for him when he came home and let them load him up, whether he wanted to go or not! That was the whole point! And now he's being allowed to run the show again!
OK, somebody correct me if I'm wrong here ... does the "Baker Act" not mean that someone who attempts or threatens suicide can be involuntarily committed to a psychiatric facility or hospitalized for three days to be evaluated? After the three days, it would probably take a court order to keep them longer ... but on the strength of that note alone, he could have been involuntarily hospitalized for THREE DAYS to be evaluated! And he still could!
Mikey, I can't believe that you are willing to risk this! What's more important to you? Are you willing to risk your sons' life to keep your wife happy, to keep her from being mad at you? in my opinion, she's in complete denial about this - believing what she chooses to believe. If trying to save your sons' life will p*ss her off, so be it! You CAN'T take that risk, and she needs to pull her head out of her butt and see what's really happening here!
And when it comes to a childs' suicide attempt, believe me, I <u>DO</u> know what I'm talking about! Two and a half years ago my 24 year old son took a massive overdose of prescription medications and came as close to dying as is humanly possible without actually doing it! He had just gotten married and within DAYS it was crumbling under his feet, and he made the decision to take his own life. It was just a miracle that he was found when he was - the doctor told me that if he had been ONE MINUTE later getting to the hospital, he would have been DOA! I spent almost a week making my allowable little 20 minute visits to the ICU to watch a ventilator blow air into my sons' lungs, not knowing for days if he would live or not, or if he did, if permanent damage had been done. Miraculously, he survived and did well, but I wouldn't wish what we went through that week on my worst enemy! And I'm very, very certain that if I had asked him the day before, he would have claimed he was fine!
Mikey, PLEASE don't take this risk! I wouldn't want to see your son go through what mine did, or to see you and your family go through what we did for that horrible week! You KNOW what you need to do ... please DO it! And what's the worst that could happen if he is hospitalized? Even if he didn't mean it, he will be professionally evaluated for three days, they will see how bad his problems have gotten, they will find out the extent of his drug habit, and possibly, just possibly, when your wife hears it from the professionals, she will finally realize how serious his situation really is!!