Stupid is such a nice way to say it Copa!
Ok so ive spent an hour or so typing up the back story..
here tis
Back story of Difficult Child 3
Father was violent, we divorced in 2000, Difficult Child was about 4 at that time.
The youngest of 3 kids.
I remarried in 2005, he has 3 kids (we had EOW with the 2 youngest and no contact with the oldest due to her living in another state and also having been adopted by her stepfather at the age of 2)
My husband had a series of strokes/TIA's, has diabetes(type 1) and has become totally disabled. I now care for him full time even though we are no longer together.
Before that husband was very close to my boy, they adored each other. at about the age of 12/13 his behaviour started to really slide ,school work, attitude, relationship with husband, lying, damaging/stealing husband's property. we tried everything.
Difficult Child has ADHD and has been on medications since he was 6, he has co morbidities as well.
late 2014 we discovered that he'd been sexually abused by a family friend, Difficult Child had blocked it but so much fell into place when we learned of it.
about the same time he'd started not taking his medications, he's made a half statement to police and has refused to talk to his pysch about the details til his statement was finished.
HIs favourite uncle died just to top it off. Dropped out of his last year of school, met a nice girl and moved to be closer to her, now hes living at his dads, (prior to this he hadnt seen his dad in almost 10yrs) Difficult Child and the girl broke up recently (he cheated on her) she was 16 and he was 18.
He started taking ketamine, then came the attempt to have a facebook party at my house whilst I was away with husband recently (8 weeks ago)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Luckily we found out 24 hrs beforehand and contacted the police etc. We arrived home , a few days later, an hour after we got home police were at the door asking for Difficult Child!!!! Turns out his "new girlfriend" wasnt 17 like she'd told him but 15! Appears shes VERY well known to the police here, shes not allowed to live at home due to HER violence against her parents and 10yr old sister!
At that point he stopped having anything to do with her and his ex and he started trying to start over..... new girlfriend found out and suddenly he's ditched the ex and is with new girlfriend..... I think this is the point she told him she was pregnant!
Her last boyfriend is now a registered sex offender and on a 3 yr good behaviour bond at the age
of 18! He was charged with rape after she told a counsellor he'd raped her........at least 3WEEKS after it apprently happened. Theyd both been using drugs at the time.
Difficult Child has been told by husband and I that he's no longer welcome to stay here when he comes up to perform with his band/see friends. He WAS welcome to come and say hi, or come for a meal, but not with that girl, she is NOT welcome here at all!
She'd agreed to go into rehab last week and was brought back up to do just that........ she's sort of under the care of child services as she's a minor. He came up as well, but didn't stay here, and I saw him twice; once with her and once he came over for dinner.
Interestingly when hes not around her he seems more open and communicative.
She lies to everyone about everything! He's going down the same path it seems.
His dad has just found out how bad she is after they tod him she was 6 weeks pregnant on thursday, but that he had to go to the doctors appointment with her..... I rang her mum and she and her dad went down to see her and talk to him, mum did not believe she was pregnant, because she has the implant in her arm, and has had for a year!
Turns out she had Difficult Child's dad go with her to the doctors because she wasnted to have the implant removed!!!!!! Thankfully he informed the dr that he was NOT legally responsible for her and couldn't give the go ahead........ which is when it came unstuck and we found out she wasn't pregnant!!!!!!!
I think ive covered everything.
And I wonder why I went gray at the age of 30!!!
He's never really dated anyone long, but the last one was 17 when he was 20 and when he showed up at her door homeless, her father was NOT pleased, to say the least. When he was 18 he was thinking about dating a freshman - I believe the term I used was jailbait. 
