CPS has been called on them a few time for domestic violence and the baby was right there screaming and nothing was done. So no. The burden is ridiculous to lose custody of a child. We have discussed it with Lee's parents.
We are too old to raise a baby to adulthood properly and we plan to travel a lot too. We would not be the one seeking custody.
Lee's parents were told that right now, with Lee working and the baby fed and not being abused physically, that it would be a very costly uphill battle. Neither of us have the kind of money he was quoted. Or half that amount.
I think between the two of our families we have done all we can.
Right now we are trying to put this behind us and not let Kay ruin our future. She has, on and off, dominated too much of our lives already. Not to mention all of our retirement money we gave both of them years ago. We are going to enjoy our retirement and do not feel up to raising another child who will be 14 when we are 70. We both have health issues and need to live in a calm place, and my precious grandson is very volitile and doesnt sleep well. Call us selfish, but we can't do it.
My step-brother and his wife are raising their two oldest grandkids right now (ages 9 & 11). They are around fifty years old, and it is almost too much for them (my brother is disabled). The younger one has some problems and I worry about the teen years coming up. The parents gave these two (of their five kids) to the grandparents “temporarily” but it seems more permanent every day, and they don’t want to go back. They said that they can’t take the younger three under any circumstances. The other (healthier) grandparents have had those kids on and off, but they are not in a position to keep them long-term.
There is no way that the courts would take away custody from the parents when they haven’t ever been charged with anything or have never had the kids taken away from them by the state. They would probably view you unfavorably for even trying.
Our difficult adult kids have a way of dominating our lives if we let them. I’m glad you see that and are taking steps to extricate yourselves.
I think so too. Now I think their home environment is terrible with pot smoke in my grandson's face and them slapping each other when they get mad and the weird lack of healthcare. But it's not up to me. And CPS found them not guilty twice.
Yet our sweet grandson sucks his thumb and wants us to hold him all the time when we are there so something is wrong, but we cant prove anything. I worry about him so but Kay and Lee are not going to lose their parental rights.
We are nearing 60 and my husband has diabetes and I have fibromyalgia. We just can't do it. I get very sore and tired and my husband needs to be diligent about his diet and exercise. Lee's parents are in their earlier 50's (had Lee young) and are healthy, but his mother has had nervous breakdowns.
My son is big on "His own thinking" no matter how warped, he always thinks he's right. I have found it best to just let him ramble. I do not engage into conversation with him. I keep my comments very simple. I do not try and share my point of view as it's pointless and only adds fuel to his fury. As I said, he always thinks he's right and will argue ad-nauseam, he just won't give up or give in. When he goes on one of his rants what I hear in my head is the teacher from Charlie Brown. "wa wa wa wa, wa wa, wa wa wa wa"
My suggestion is to say something like "thank you for sharing your insight on this subject" this way you are validating that you heard her but also not agreeing with her.
Unfortunately you have zero say or control in how she and her husband choose to raise their child.