I will lock all of my stuff up.
bluebell. I do not know what to tell you. Except to ask how long you feel you can continue living in this state of emergency and crisis?
We drove my son to a rehab place and he was not accepted for the same reason. He was interviewed alone and said all kinds of thinks that rendered him "too acute." I remember screaming in the car--and trying to run out--it all was too much for me. You do not want to get to this point. Eventually your son will have to deal or not deal with the situation. But he is the only one who can.
My son has gone to emergency hospitals multiple times. Sometimes they admit him. (That I am aware of he has not used pills.) But if he is using xanex or something like it, withdrawal needs to be supervised. Maybe by going to a psychiatric emergency hospital he can get short-term de-tox. And go from there. Or perhaps if that does not work, his family physician can supervise his withdrawal, if he chooses to stop.
But the issue here is: does he want to stop?
What about the free programs such as Victory Outreach or Synanon or St. Vincent De Paul. There are other programs too, that one could unearth through a few minutes research.
I am not proselytizing here, but I know this because M has been for the past few months studying with LDS missionaries here at our house. He has met several people who had serious drug programs who have recovered through this faith (which is not my own.) We have run into another group too that has a home for young men, but it is also faith-based.
You know, Job Corps will take youth with drug problems, but they cannot be actively using upon admission. Job Corps is a free government job training program with centers all over the country. They house and feed them, and they are well-supervised. The trainings are fantastic. Kids can elect to go to centers far from home, if they choose. I can speak based upon direct experience, about Job Corps. My son went.
The Military, too, can be an option. One mother's son, she posted here for a couple years at least (lovemyson), just completed basic training in the marines. He was a heroin addict who relapsed at least once, who had great success in a faith-based men's program.
These dire situations can change, just like that.
I guess I want to say this: until your son realizes he is the one with a problem that
he has to fix, there is not going to be any change.
There are no magic pills....
What is the short-term plan, now?
