First of all, did they do the evaluations and then say she didn't qualify, or did they just say she wouldn't qualify? If they haven't done the evaluations, they have NO CLUE and are talking out their donkeys. I HATE when the school people do that.
Your daughter is sick enough to qualify for inpatient treatment and for a partial hospitalization program but not sick enough to get accommodations at school? Are they serious? If someone actually told you that I hope you broke down in laughter so hard you actually rolled around on the floor in hysterical laughter. Because, seriously? Seriously? have they spoken to her? Have they looked at how she s doing? How can they say that?
What they are trying to do is to get you to not send the letter askign for evaluation. Evaluation is expensive and each parent they talk out of it saves them thousands of dollars and extra work. NOT dollars you will spend, the evaluation shouldn't cost YOU, but copies of any testing you have done privately that show problems should definitely be shown because it is something they cannot really refute, plus private evaluations are more complete and in my opinion more reliable. Private evaluations look at her hwole life and school evaluation looks at her life at school, which is one reason they are more complete.
Go to the sp ed archives and find the letter asking for evaluation for an IEP. Fill in your daughter's name and all the other bits of personal info and get that letter into the mail. It MUST MUST MUST be send certified mail, return receipt requested. This way you can PROVE they got it and it puts a timeline to have the evaluations done into place. Your daughter then has the protections of an IEP through the entire evaluation period, meaning that if she is suspended for mroe than ten days it means they ahve to do a hearing to change placement,a nd a bunch of other protections. f you don't send the letter by certified mail, return receipt requested, you have NO way to prove that you sent it or they received it, which means no way to force them to put the timeline into action.
As for what happens next, it sounds like you need to take some time off work and go sit and wait until the whomever at the PHP program talks to you. I know it is a PITA and time off work is precious, but otherwise they will discharge her and assume you will set up whatever she needs. PUSH them until they set up a real program. Sit and write out what YOU think she needs. Then push and push. If they say no or we don't do that, ask why not and who does. Flat out say "we need this and you are the one planning the discharge program so you need to make it happen"
They won't like you and invite you to be bffs with them, but who cares? I have upset them a few times at phosps by telling them to either set things up for treatment for him or figure out how to keep him cause he isn't coming home with just this in place. I did take him home, but the scrambled to find a few things to give me because they were afraid we just were not going to come get him.
