IC, they do.
Scoot, when my son was younger, he could not handle a lot of children with him so a van picked him up AT OUR HOUSE and dropped him off at the school entrance where a teacher met him. This is available to all special needs children. Your school is just not telling you about it. Read my response to your first message and bring up the bus when you talk to the advocate. Obviously, your son should be taken to school by alternate services. Where I live, cabs even sometimes pick up and drop off kids at the school's expense. They don't like to spend the money, but they don't have a choice.
You are missing that special diagnosis that you need and you will have to go outside the school district to get a comprehensive evaluation. diagnosis. of ADHD or ODD are mild diagnoses and not seen as serious and your son sounds like a lot more than ADHD/ODD is going on anyway. The schools don't respond much with just ADHD/ODD. In our school district they don't even have to accomodate ADHD. You need a total battery of tests, 6-10 hrs. worth, on your son. I like neuropsychs best, especially for older kids.
In it, tell the evaluator to list accomodations he thinks your child needs, including transportation. My son got everything that the outside neuropsychologist demanded because by then the school was pretty scared of me and my husband. They knew that, along with our advocate, we would take them to court if they tried anything funny. Plus the Dept. of Public Education can do an investigation on the school district too. And this influences how much money each district gets. They don't want any investigations.
You need to start making waves. Being nice doesn't work. You should always try being nice at first, but when you are clearly getting tossed around, you need to put on your Mom Warrior Gear and fight for your child and you can't really get anywhere either alone or just working within the school system. You need outsider help.
Keep us posted!!!