Life has been very busy. I still read this forum, pray for you and when I have time answer and write. Daughter has been making her house payments since last Oct 2018. As long as she pays her bills and I don't have bill collectors calling here I stay away. Her neighbors call me when they see something off and so far things are just ok. I went over to the house a couple of months ago and notice big marks on the wall. When my daughter moved in I paid eight thousand dollars to have it painted. I made a comment about the marks on the wall. A week later she calls to tell me they paint matched it exactly and it looks good. I went over a couple of weeks ago and nothing had been painted. She still lies but we have noticed not as much. I think when she is stressed out she just starts lying more. She is still living with her 44 year old boyfriend. Things have settled down a bit. Daughter is 5'6 and weighed about 110, in a few short years she is up to 165. She does not look like the same person but I have noticed since she put on 55 lbs her moodswings are much better and she seems a bit more grounded. She hates being that weight and complains about it all the time but I would rather her be a bit over weight but grounded in her head. I do not say anything about her weight and just compliment her on staying on track. Every single day she asks me if I think she is fat, I tell her that she is beautiful because to me, better behavior is beautiful. I have not said one word to the boyfriend since last Memorial Day. I told me daughter he is rude and she agrees yet nothing has been done about it. NO relationship at all. It once bothered me,but now I am satisfied because I truly do not like him. He actually hurts my spirit when he is around. When I am at my daughter home I see his handprints all over the walls, big greasy prints just like a little child. I have come to some kind of peace with not worring about the house too much. If they move I will just remodel so I have dropped all that worry. My daughter's boyfriend said to her 'I bet your mom thinks we live like a couple of pigs'. My daughter told me that and I did not say a word because if I would have said yes I do I am sure it would get worse over there. All these things that I am complaining about today are so very minor compared to a year ago. I am grateful and careful. Things are not great by NO means, just better than last year.