My easy child gave me my backbone I couldn't seem to find.
difficult child was picking at her and she called me at the shop. husband was with me so I was able to leave him there as I rushed home to 'fix' the problem.
I began the conversation with " the first time you speak disrespectful to me you WILL leave"
Everything was laid on the table, I held nothing back. easy child won't stand up to him and all of that was addressed as well.
He said he wouldn't sign a contract and I said fine you can leave now. He changed his mind.
All in all it went well. I stood my ground and didn't give an inch, I guess I had to get to the point that I could mean what I said and if he didn't like it I was ready to open the door for him to leave and not look back.
It ended with him hugging his sister and me telling him that there will never be anyone else that loves him like his sis and I do. I think it touched us all.
But I had to get to the point of anger to be able to stand my ground and he knows without a doubt that the very next time he starts his stuff ~ he will have to find somewhere else to go.
I even went so far to tell him he will leave the minute he starts and he will have 1 week from that day to get all his belongings that he wants and after that week his things will be gone and he will not be able to stay here again. I told him he could visit if he chose to respect us all, but never again would he have the chance to live here.
I feel like a new woman. easy child feels like a load has been lifted off her shoulders and husband is just waiting to see what happens.
difficult child was picking at her and she called me at the shop. husband was with me so I was able to leave him there as I rushed home to 'fix' the problem.
I began the conversation with " the first time you speak disrespectful to me you WILL leave"
Everything was laid on the table, I held nothing back. easy child won't stand up to him and all of that was addressed as well.
He said he wouldn't sign a contract and I said fine you can leave now. He changed his mind.
All in all it went well. I stood my ground and didn't give an inch, I guess I had to get to the point that I could mean what I said and if he didn't like it I was ready to open the door for him to leave and not look back.
It ended with him hugging his sister and me telling him that there will never be anyone else that loves him like his sis and I do. I think it touched us all.
But I had to get to the point of anger to be able to stand my ground and he knows without a doubt that the very next time he starts his stuff ~ he will have to find somewhere else to go.
I even went so far to tell him he will leave the minute he starts and he will have 1 week from that day to get all his belongings that he wants and after that week his things will be gone and he will not be able to stay here again. I told him he could visit if he chose to respect us all, but never again would he have the chance to live here.
I feel like a new woman. easy child feels like a load has been lifted off her shoulders and husband is just waiting to see what happens.
