We went for visiting time at rehab today. You may remember that we had a great family meeting with difficult child last week. Unfortunately the reports from the have been up and down since. I do believe he fully plans on being sober once home, but he continues to struggle with behavior. This rehab is very structured, up at a set time, clean your room, etc all day long. These are the very things he struggled with at boarding shool and home - he doesn't want to HAVE to do anything. Also, with the lack of cigarettes and add medications, his mood is all over the place. husband came with today and their relationship continues to heal so that's a positive, but I could see him trying to start conversations about not believing in aa and when he's going to get his cell phone back. He is acting like his sobriety is a given and we shouldn't be trying to "force" anything. To be honest I don't necessarily disagree with not forcing some things - like AA - personally I want him working it but I don't think there is any point forcing someone to do that - maybe the court will mandate it anyway. He is very upset that the rehab is recommending no stimulant medications - he does have terrible add and really relies on it for school - he is refusing trying anything like strattera - so the bottom line is - he's making a lot of terms and demands and I am nervous. He will have court and probation when he gets home so he cannot dictate all terms but I know how he gets. He will continue to demand and throw fits. We will have in home services when he comes home - but I wish he could just be reasonable. He will be home in 2 weeks.