Waiting for family therapy calls to discuss matters of importance is a good thing.
Having said that? I would definitely pay for birth control. Something isn't right here, Kathy.
Has she been talking about wanting a child?
She had to know you would react as you have. And then, to say she will pay for the b.c. if you pay for doctor's appointment.... I can already hear "If only you'd paid for those b.c. pills Mom, I wouldn't be pregnant."
Something just sounds fishy. I would pay for b.c. That is still no guarantee she will take it. But you will know she has access.
Barbara