JKF
Well-Known Member
Hello friends. It's been a while. I hope you're all doing well. I've been reading here and there but haven't had much time to post. I don't even know where to begin. As some of you know, difficult child went to Idaho in September to live in an apartment in the building my dad owns. The plan was for difficult child to live rent free in the apartment in return for doing building upkeep and maintenance. He was ok for maybe a week and then things went downhill. He is lazy. He's a slob. He's destructive, defiant, and rude. He doesn't want to do anything except sit on his butt, stuff his face, sleep, and play around on his phone. My dad has been tolerating it and trying to work with him but after yesterday he's done.
Yesterday my dad got a call from one of the other tenants in the building. This woman and her family have been so kind to difficult child from day 1. She would cook dinner for him and let him use her computer and internet. She would drive him places, take him food shopping, etc. Well it turns out that difficult child got their bank account information off of their computer and did 3 electronic deposits from their account into his. He also helped them set up the e-check for their tax return and they have yet to see that. I have a feeling he had that routed into his account as well. My father said now everything is falling into place and things are making sense because my dad had some of his bank documents up there at the building and his bank has called him 3 times in the last 5 months asking if he was trying to do some kind of transfer. He's had to get 3 new debit cards since difficult child has been there it's pretty obvious that difficult child has his information too and has been using it for his illegal activities.
I am absolutely sick over this. Is it a surprise? No. Not at all. But I was really hoping he would have taken this opportunity and used it to his advantage. He had a chance at a brand new start with minimal requirements on his part. However, instead, he's once again used, taken advantage of and stolen from the people who were trying to help him.
I've basically come to the conclusion that my son's a sociopath. It has been hinted at by professionals in the past but this confirms it. He has no regard for others, feels like he's entitled to anything he wants, lies, steals, cons, and cheats anyone and everyone who has ever tried to help him. He's a master manipulator and he makes people feel sorry for him and then robs them blind. And he's not even 20 yet.
Anyway - tomorrow my dad is taking him to the homeless shelter in the next city. He's burned yet another bridge and this time I'm not going to try to help him find a new one. I've done all I can do for him. Do I love him? Yes - he's my son and I love him more than anything and always will but I can't and won't condone his actions. I'm done. I'm getting myself prepared for the endless phone calls, emails, messages, etc. The threats that he's going to kill himself. The rage. The blame. All of it. I'm prepared for it and I'm not going to let it affect me. We've been down this road how many times now? Too many to count at this point and it ends now. It's up to him now. No more help from us. No more enabling. No more. I'm done.
Yesterday my dad got a call from one of the other tenants in the building. This woman and her family have been so kind to difficult child from day 1. She would cook dinner for him and let him use her computer and internet. She would drive him places, take him food shopping, etc. Well it turns out that difficult child got their bank account information off of their computer and did 3 electronic deposits from their account into his. He also helped them set up the e-check for their tax return and they have yet to see that. I have a feeling he had that routed into his account as well. My father said now everything is falling into place and things are making sense because my dad had some of his bank documents up there at the building and his bank has called him 3 times in the last 5 months asking if he was trying to do some kind of transfer. He's had to get 3 new debit cards since difficult child has been there it's pretty obvious that difficult child has his information too and has been using it for his illegal activities.
I am absolutely sick over this. Is it a surprise? No. Not at all. But I was really hoping he would have taken this opportunity and used it to his advantage. He had a chance at a brand new start with minimal requirements on his part. However, instead, he's once again used, taken advantage of and stolen from the people who were trying to help him.
I've basically come to the conclusion that my son's a sociopath. It has been hinted at by professionals in the past but this confirms it. He has no regard for others, feels like he's entitled to anything he wants, lies, steals, cons, and cheats anyone and everyone who has ever tried to help him. He's a master manipulator and he makes people feel sorry for him and then robs them blind. And he's not even 20 yet.
Anyway - tomorrow my dad is taking him to the homeless shelter in the next city. He's burned yet another bridge and this time I'm not going to try to help him find a new one. I've done all I can do for him. Do I love him? Yes - he's my son and I love him more than anything and always will but I can't and won't condone his actions. I'm done. I'm getting myself prepared for the endless phone calls, emails, messages, etc. The threats that he's going to kill himself. The rage. The blame. All of it. I'm prepared for it and I'm not going to let it affect me. We've been down this road how many times now? Too many to count at this point and it ends now. It's up to him now. No more help from us. No more enabling. No more. I'm done.