support for parents of mentally ill adults

“Hope is the worst of evils, for it prolongs the torment of man” Friedrich Nietzsche Make that "torment of woman", specifically me. When, oh when, will I ever stop hoping that "this time" things will be different with difficult child? Hope is indeed cruel. difficult child had tried community college when she'd...

Hello all, this is my first post, my daughter has just turned 18, she has been dating her boyfriend for 6 months and to say he is awful is an understatement. I am so worried for my daughter, having said that though I know she is responsible for some things that are going on, as they say, I...

hi so earlier i posted about how i took easy child to dr. she came back here etc. well she wound up blowing up, when she did i removed her to my room away from difficult child. she began to cry and said i dont know what's going on with me but i'm filled with rage and have been for years now and i can't take it...

So hubby and I drove to the Chicago area to see my beautiful granddaughter. She is about the same age as Julie was when we first got her from Korea, AND SHE LOOKS JUST LIKE JULIE DID! She is healthy, chubby, baby chatty alert and just the best. That was the good part of my weekend...I got to...

Given all the events, the 'virtual crossing of the line' (that you know is there, but just not where it is until it is crossed).....it's time to let go. But, how? Do you put them out there and just have no contact? Or do you put them out there and have minimal contact? Limit to texting only...

I am new to this site and wondering what difficult child stands for? I googled it but surely it does not mean what Google says! Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app

Something has changed in the way I see. All these months I have tried so hard to figure out how to detach. It worked. It seems to be happening for me now at the speed of light. I remember my own hopelessness regarding ever reaching a point where I was not vulnerable to my children. I am not...

Newbie here, but am a survivor of my adult bipolar sons behavior. After years of helping, bailing him out, paying his rent, trying to get him on the straight and narrow, we have seen the light and are trying to detach. He pulled a gun on husband last week and held it to his head, thank god, he didn't...

difficult child has been truly out on his own for nearly a year now. The increases in his maturity are astonishing, and he is achieving things I never thought I would see in my lifetime. That said, I am astonished by how quickly he can regress. Yesterday, difficult child came over for the afternoon to visit with the...

Sometimes that's easier said than done but I'm trying. I've tried to keep myself calm today and I'm actually doing somewhat ok. I reached out to a homeless outreach group for mentally ill people today so I hope to hear back from them soon in regards to difficult child. When he called earlier he was a bit...

I hate this time of year. I really do. I get so worked up about the holidays. Usually it's bc I was always unsure of how difficult child would act around others etc. This year I'm freaking out bc difficult child is living on his own (first time ever) 2 hours away. We are still not comfortable allowing him back in our...

Well, pretty much knew this was coming sooner or later. Young difficult child has been "out" of jail on a PR Bond for the past several months. His original felony of spitting on police several yrs ago has now come to find him in violation for getting re-arrested so they put a warrant out for his...

Hi I have to to make a decision in 12 hours. My 22yrs old wants to come home and I”m not coping with the thought. Everyone who has been around through it all say dont do it, I have 3 other young school aged children all with Diagnoses that I’m struggling with. Others who haven’t been there...

I just wanted to say hey to this group and that I hope everyone is finding their serenity if only in brief moments here and there. I almost had to come back to this group. Stepsongfg has been out of the house for over a year now and is doing well. We don't see him enough but mostly that's...

I have a HUGE struggle with the concept of whether my difficult child is REALLY mentally ill, or just plain mean. It's easy for me to see depression, bipolar, and so many challenges in this way--chemical imbalances, no choice in the matter. But the lack of remorse? The seeming lack of a normal conscience...

I took difficult child to his intake appointment today for outpatient rehab. He was agitated on the way there and told me to note that he was being 'good', that he wasn't flipping out but couldn't wait to talk to the worker and have her tell him 'you don't need to be here, you're doing great! Run along...

Hi, all. In desperation I got out of bed and decided to look again for some help. I found this site. My daughter was diagnosed with severe ADHD at age 9. School has been a constant struggle. However, the problem "du jour" is that she turned 18 a few weeks ago (she is a senior in high...

I haven’t been on any forums in a very long time, so please forgive me for not knowing the acronyms that would simplify my post. Quick background. I am Mom to four sons, the oldest three of which are adopted by me in 2010. I was previously their stepmother, having raised them with their father...

Everyone was so great when my difficult child daughter tried to commit suicide in late February. Since then, she's moved back to our community, gotten an apartment with a guy friend she's known since junior high, gotten a food delivery job, developed a surprisingly strong work ethic, learned to manage money...

Okay, so I am struggling here with the whole detachment concept. This situation with our difficult child, JT, is creating a lot of anxiety and depression for me, so I hope you can help me navigate with a clear direction. Background: JT has flunked out of college, started smoking, and had a couple of...