support for parents of mentally ill adults

So glad to find this. Sorry others are going through it but so happy to not feel so alone. I am a Mom of 2 girls. One who will be 20 in July and a 13 year old. I have never been absent in their lives. PTA Mom. Hosting kids parties and the go to Mom for all their friends. If they need a ride or...

husband and I will be going home, soon. Though I think we know we need to let her fall, or let her choose this life, or...whatever the phrase would be when you. I guess the phrase I am looking for is "enable". Yep. That is what you will say, I am sure. What we are thinking about half the...

difficult child is still on the streets. Sleeping at the train station at night and bouncing between the day shelter, library and soup kitchen during the day. This weekend is Easter and we were going to allow him to come here on Sunday but now that he got kicked out of the shelter and is officially...

My youngest difficult child is 24 and has had a substance abuse problem since college. He had Tourette Syndrome growing up and some challenges with that and had to be on regular medication, but he was well-liked, a good student, loved sports and had a sweet disposition. Once he hit college the **it hit the...

Hi Everyone - After much discussion and more violent episodes, we have moved difficult child out of the house. I feel like there is so much to say, and I do not know where to start. Here are the highlights (or low-lights depending on how you look at it!) Due to some issues with some college money his...

I don't even know where to start - so I thought I would just try to write until all this was out of my head. The *main* reason I moved to the NW from the small town in AZ was so that Matt had access to healthcare and help. Also to be closer to my Mom, and because there were not any jobs in my...

Several months ago difficult child lost her phone yet again. I can't recall the details. She loses her phone alot. She works out deals with us. She'll do bookkeeping for my husband and get another one eventually. As is often the case with these things (I'm preoccupied lately), I'm fuzzy on some of the...

Hello friends. It's been a while. I hope you're all doing well. I've been reading here and there but haven't had much time to post. I don't even know where to begin. As some of you know, difficult child went to Idaho in September to live in an apartment in the building my dad owns. The plan was for difficult child to...

My oldest son is 31 and has never lived on his own. He hasn't lived with me for eight years however. I spent several years encouraging him to get a job and plan for his future. He had no desire for college. He bounced from job to job to job. He refused to "work" his way up to a good position. He...

Angel got suspended yesterday for hitting ketchup packs with her fist on the table squirting it at her sister but got another student with it. So then she took off last night couple hours later she is caught stuffing a bag with 3 books & 2 stuffed animals and 2 5hour energy shots in her window...

My 24 y/o son is in jail for drug paraphenilia (sp?) posession. He was arrested a yr ago for stealing mail from peoples mailboxes but we (wife and I) bailed him out and pd the attorney $500 (which we got back- PD), spend at least $400 in phone calls to the jail in the 10 days he was in jail...

Warning: I am tired just finished 20 hours of a class..will graduate in a month (long/positive story :happy:) Anyway, a difficult child update of sorts. difficult child has moved a zillion times. We have discussed with- her the idea of going to a group home. She refuses and it gets ugly. She is on disability, so by...

He has no idea I canceled my tickets and will be really angry and upset that I'm not visiting him. I realize it is his behavior that caused it, but I still feel guilty. Knock some common sense into me. PLEASE!!!!

for those of you who remember my story, I have a 18yr difficult child, i placed her in foster care voluntarily, who is 8 weeks pregnant who suffers from (unofficially diagnosis'ed and not treated becuase the State refused to listen to me) bipolar and borderline personality disorder. graduated in may (has learning...

My son beat up his sister.he is 26 her 30.he has been charged with domestic abuse.this happened 5 months ago. Im afraid this charge is going to ruin his whole life. He was screamed at by his dad from the time he was a young boy. He was raped while in a hospital. Im feeling so bad for him...

I have read this forum for the last several years whenever I have felt sad, depressed, or unable to cope. I think I finally need to share my story because I see a lot of support here and feel like I could use some advice from people that have been there and done that. I have three children...

Detaching is hard and to the outside world it can appear that we have turned our backs. That we are cold hearted and uncaring. If they only knew the pain in our hearts............my difficult child has taught me the meaning of unconditional love. My 34yo difficult child loves the drama and does not like to be alone...

Hi there My son, who is 23 and still lives with us, is smoking pot and causing problems at home. He is still with us because he is mentally ill and likely will never, ever be able to care for himself fully. I just don't know what to do. He's too old to discipline, but can't be kicked out because...

I will try to read as much as I can but I think Billy brought home some freaking bug from work and infected me! My immune system is shot and I catch everything. I am coughing and stuffed up and chest feels like someone has taken a vice to it. I have a nebulizer so I am doing breathing...

On Sunday, Youngest, her fiancé, and my 3 year old grandson are moving in, temporarily. Her fiancé messed around looking for just the right job (two months after his contract ran out), lost valuable time and money, their lease is up May 31st and they have no money for a security deposit, no...