I am a 65 year old married woman with a 43 year old homeless son. He is an only child and I am not married to his father. He left our alcoholic (step-father) home at 14 and went to live with his father in California. His stepdad quit drinking that summer (and has not drank since). Long story short, his dad was/is an avid pot smoker and allowed our son to smoke. He dropped out of school at 17. He joined the California Conservation Corp and was busted for selling amphetimines. By then, his stepdad and I were in Oregon (my job had transferred us from Ky to Or). Son was released to us as a means to avoid jail time. I stipulated that he would have to get ged, a job, etc. of course, that didn’t happen. So, I took him to a local homeless shelter and turned him out. My thought was that tough love would do the trick. It didn’t. Over these many years, his stepdad and I have given him at least a half dozen vehicles, untold sums of money, phones, etc. About 13 years ago he met a homeless woman and now has a 9 year old son who lives with his other grandma in NYC. She has told grandson that his father is dead...and we really don’t know where the mom is. I gave him a credit card to use when he was battling for custody of his son, and subsequently have been paying the balance down. Yes, I did cancel his card. He is on SSI so he does get about $900/month. For the last two years, he believed the other grandma had put out a “hit” on him and so has lived on Indian reservations, national forests, etc since then. (No, he is not Native American...he just has a good rapport with them) A kind man and his family have given him a tent to use on the man’s gold claim, so he and his three wolf dogs are about 4 1/2 miles back a dirt road. This kind man has told my son that upon researching, he has found that the hit has been taken off of him and it is now time for son to get a job, a house etc for himself and dogs. Son is currently 1200 miles from us. He called this am stating he needs to get back to home state in order to deal with ssi requirements. While I am sure there is truth to that statement (his mail comes to our address), I also know through the kind man that he just recently gave son the ultimatum. When I told son this am that he was going to have to make some tough decisions...ie perhaps getting rid of couple of dogs in order to actually find someplace to live; making the 4 1/2 mile hike in and 4q1/2 mile out in order to try and find work, etc. he was having none of it. I am caring for bed-ridden husband (on oxygen for last 8 years). I have approximately $15,000 in savings, work 2 hrs a day, and know that when current husband is gone (no, I don’t have a time frame on his emphysema) I will have to be caring for myself. I know I need to stand strong...but I also feel a wavering. Thank you for understanding.