Some of us here have our troubled children and other children who are not, or have straightened up their lives. Some of those children and some husbands or if you are a dad, mothers, choose not to associate with our troubled children. My younger two will not attend any function where my troubled son attends. He was not even invited to his brothers wedding and has never met his wife. This makes for very awkward holidays. Sometimes I just want to avoid the holidays altogether rather than deal with the emotions. My question is how do you deal with this at the holidays? Do you exclude the troubled ones or celebrate separately or some other solution?