My son is newly 18 and will be graduating HS from BoysTown (residential home out of state). He is in BoysTown because he wasn’t able to live at home any longer due to behaviors: stealing, lying, chaos manufacture. He’s not ready to live independently, but of course he thinks he is. Due to lack of options for him, we agreed to let him move back to our home town and live in a rental that his grandpa currently rents from us until he can get on his feet and figure out his next step (school, other housing option, etc). (I’m looking into social service options and low income housing, but they’re not easy to come by.)
My son is unstable – ADHD/anxiety/depression/likely antisocial diagnosis, smokes weed also. I do not expect this to go well. He knows a contract will be in place and he will be kicked out if he is non-compliant. Fairly certain he doesn’t think I’ll do this, but he hasn’t been here to see me get strong this past year… I will do it.
Does anyone have ideas/experience/lessons learned on how to enter into an agreement like this with their difficult child? I want boundaries and consequences to be crystal clear.
I appreciate any insight.
My son is unstable – ADHD/anxiety/depression/likely antisocial diagnosis, smokes weed also. I do not expect this to go well. He knows a contract will be in place and he will be kicked out if he is non-compliant. Fairly certain he doesn’t think I’ll do this, but he hasn’t been here to see me get strong this past year… I will do it.
Does anyone have ideas/experience/lessons learned on how to enter into an agreement like this with their difficult child? I want boundaries and consequences to be crystal clear.
I appreciate any insight.