Life with our challenging kids is a roller coaster - literally. Up and down, around and about, fast and slow, slide and climb...
I've been here for about 12 years now and arrived blurry-eyed in the middle of the night searching for...I don't know, answers, help...my son was at his darkest and most difficult and I was lost, disillusioned, confused, embarrassed, and clueless!
Even though you feel you have nothing to offer or feel awkward, you would be amazed to discover what a simple "welcome to the site", or "I understand 'cause I've been there, done that", "hang in there", "positive thoughts your way", etc., will do to a parent who feels they are totally alone and at the end of their rope posts.
There are many who find their way here who have never seen another child like their challenging one. There are many who find their way here who have no one to ask for advice.
There are many who find their way here who have no idea where to turn next.
Coming here and finding this community is better than a hug, although it feels warm and comforting when you realize there are other parents out there who are going through the same thing you are! This is a place where we can find camaraderie through shared/like experiences.
Never feel you have nothing to offer - everyone here has a shoulder that someone might need. Never underestimate your power to make someone feel less afraid, less alone, less stressed and frazzled.
Confused, you do add to the group. It's not about how many times you post, it's more about the sincerity and openness when you do. Ilovecupcakes, I'm glad you "came out of hiding". Your son is a little one still and studies show that early intervention is a HUGE indicator of future success. You are in the right place!
Times have changed since 2002 when I came here. AHDH, learning disabilities, behavior issues, physical and mental challenges, etc., are much more "in the open" than they were just 12 years ago. It's easier to find information than it was just 12 short years ago. But places like this, where parents can gather to offer support and ask advice will always be in vogue!
Thanks for being part of the group!
Sharon