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i just had a discussion about this with difficult child's therapist today. We were discussing, among other things, high schools in the city and what options I should look into. It then got us into a discussion regarding making sure the IEP "looks" favorable in regards to behavior when submitting that IEP as part of the admission process (since we are talking the same district but different zones in my case).
She said, in referring to the public military school I am looking at, that they don't take kids with real discipline problems like stealing, fighting, history of suspentions, etc., and that those things don't apply to difficult child. True, I said, but a big part of his IEP is behavorial. She commented that she believes many of difficult children behavior issues stem from either anxiety or frustration with learning disabilities - knowing the work, just not how to get from point A to point B to complete it to the academic standard.
It's kinda like what you are talking about here. My difficult child does well academically, always has been honor or scholar roll - but he has done so with a set of good accoms/mods and IEP goals in place for both behavior and academics. Of course they don't always work.........
Most of time they go hand in hand.
Shaorn