Knifetomyheart
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Hi all! I need long term help for my daughter, as she cannot function at home any longer. I don't think I need to tell this crowd how difficult it is to parent her. She has no regard for rules or authority. Consequences and incentives mean NOTHING. She's 16 and was diagnosed with bipolar last year. I was always very hesitant to medicate or label her with a diagnosis but we got to a breaking point after several years of bad behavior, running away, and poor decisions. She now takes lithium and geodon. She was in residential treatment for a total of 4 months during 2017 and outpatient therapy for over a year now. We are still struggling!!
She refuses school most days. She holds the entire home hostage with her moods, anger, and manipulation. She is especially terrible to me, her father, and her brother. She's often physically violent with me and her dad. I finally had her arrested in May after she began punching me in my face and neck when I tried to wake her up for school. The juvenile justice system is a joke, by the way. They asked me to pick her up 2 hours after she was arrested.
I'm at a tipping point, folks. I have endlessly researched and made calls and told my sad story to someone on the other end of the line to little avail. There are so few programs available to adolescents with mental and behavioral health concerns. Private insurance only covers a few weeks and other programs cost upwards of $15-20k per month. I have no way to pay for more than a couple of months of care AND most of these programs are strictly voluntary. How can you "MAKE" a defiant child who is physically much larger than you DO anything??
I cannot believe I am even fathoming this, but I wonder if I should relinquish my rights? It almost seems she would receive better care if she qualified for Medicaid or some other state program. Am I crazy to think that? I can no longer live this way! My poor family deserves some peace and harmony. And I would do anything to get my daughter the help she needs, including selling my organs on the black market lol. Any advice would be appreciated.
She refuses school most days. She holds the entire home hostage with her moods, anger, and manipulation. She is especially terrible to me, her father, and her brother. She's often physically violent with me and her dad. I finally had her arrested in May after she began punching me in my face and neck when I tried to wake her up for school. The juvenile justice system is a joke, by the way. They asked me to pick her up 2 hours after she was arrested.
I'm at a tipping point, folks. I have endlessly researched and made calls and told my sad story to someone on the other end of the line to little avail. There are so few programs available to adolescents with mental and behavioral health concerns. Private insurance only covers a few weeks and other programs cost upwards of $15-20k per month. I have no way to pay for more than a couple of months of care AND most of these programs are strictly voluntary. How can you "MAKE" a defiant child who is physically much larger than you DO anything??
I cannot believe I am even fathoming this, but I wonder if I should relinquish my rights? It almost seems she would receive better care if she qualified for Medicaid or some other state program. Am I crazy to think that? I can no longer live this way! My poor family deserves some peace and harmony. And I would do anything to get my daughter the help she needs, including selling my organs on the black market lol. Any advice would be appreciated.