Well, we saw psychiatrist today and decided to just wait. Summer is very unstructured, and I work too much so I really cannot add more structure, and husband will not be good about it either. He suggested reducing Lamictal (said it can act like a stime sometimes and maybe we were upping him too much, I have heard that Lamictal can be activating for some) but I am not too keen on that as when we increased it the last time I saw some big positives. I don't think cutting out the Daytrana is the answer (he is on the lowest dose) as he did not have it Sat, Sun, or Mon and man was he wild. We can't increase it, as when we tried that he was to unstable mood wise, was demanding, bossy, tearful, and angry. Bad.
The comments about Klonopin are scary. husband takes this, and it is a life saver for him. Does not sound like a good medication for kids though. Maybe Clonidine, but for now we will just stay in a holding pattern. I think a lot of it may be that I am just so tired that it is harder to deal with difficult child. I am trying to back off on my work schedule but then my money backs off too, so I can't win for losing.