Welcome PF. I have a 19 year old daughter that spent last summer in a residential treatment program and came home and relapsed. We kicked her out of the house in February and she was living with a friend and drinking and smoking pot constantly. She lost her job, her friends, her family and most of her possessions. She even began dancing in a strip club. Finally at the end of March she begged to come home and we said no but thatshe coudl find a recovery program and we would support that. She is now living in a sober houser and has just completed 40 days of sobriety. She will be there from 6 months to a year and attends meetings all day every day, either in the house or outside AA meetings. After the initial two week restriction she was able to have family visits on Sunday 12-5. Those visits have been going very well and I have never seen her so happy or focused in my life.
Like you we have gone through a lot over these years, too painful to even remember right now. But we are hoping this time she is getting the tools she needs to liver a sober life. We have been through enough relapses to know it can all end in a split second, but for now we are happy she is in recovery.
The only way I kept my sanity through everything was these wonderful members here who have been where I was. They held me up and encouraged me when I needed it and never gave up hope.
Nancy