"Don't Speak To Me!" and other catchphrases

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by trinityroyal, Dec 6, 2012.

  1. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    The "talky" thing happens about the second time (3rd...4th...5th...etc) time I tell her to do something I shouldn't need to tell her to do more than once. If I want to lecture her? I wait til she's in the bathroom and can't escape. Since she has no compunctions about walking in on me, I return the favor. (Yes, we do knock to warn first, I've at least managed to get her to do that and wait for a reply, but it doesn't always seem to matter much what my reply is).
     
  2. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    Do NOT repeat yourself.
    This will take some re-training for both of you.

    Tell her ONCE. Have her tell you what she heard, and the timeframe she expects to do it in, ONCE - so you know she heard you. And then... it's up to her.

    After that, it's logical consequences.

    Have you read "kids are worth it"? It's written for NT kids, and I couldn't use everything she suggests, but THAT one is priceless.
     
  3. buddy

    buddy New Member


    Funny. That reminds me of when Q would say, "but I have straight M.A. " to try to explain his behavior. He heard me say that at the check in desks so many times I think he thought when they asked for insurance that I was giving them his diagnosis. The first few times I heard him say it I was so confused then I realized he thought it was something he had wrong with him, lol.
     
  4. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    These are just priceless.

    I used to very quietly say 'chocolate chip cookies' or 'cheesecake' or some other dessert. My mother thought this was incredibly odd, esp as I would say it at what to her seemed like random times. reality? The kids always responded and then? I had their attention to tell them to go do a chore or stop fighting or eat a cookie or whatever. The reason this STLL works is that they don't know if this is one of the times where they will get the treat. In the beggining, long before thank you was even a dream, the treat was handed out IF they responded when I said the word. No response meant no treat. After maybe two weeks I started giving the treats less often and NOT at predictable intervals. The most effective form of reward is one that comes at irregular intervals.

    The kids also knew that I was well aware that they heard every word I said. So the 'you didn't tell me' koi flew about as well as I would if I jumped off a buildng in my birthday suit. I got a LOT more chores and cooperation for this one.

    Star, I ddn't know you did the tantrum in a store thing too! Wiz was about 2 and we were at a Dillard's department store near the shoe dept. I knew the people working that day from college, and they were prepared to play along. Wiz tried to have a tantrum. I told him he was doing it wrong and to watch, I would show him how to have a REAL tantrum.

    In well under a minute Wiz was begging me to stop because I was "barrassing" him, lol!! To this very day he NEVER has a tantrum or hissy of any kind when he is in public with me. he did in a few psychiatrist offces, but that, in my opinion, was why we were there.

    Wiz had some great ones. Somewhere around 2yrs old he decided to hide his socks. I could search the house for hours and not find them. His only answer when asked wehre they were?

    The Laaaaaaaand of Enchantment. Yup, in the sweetest lttle sing-song voice. Drove my mother totally bonkers. I am not a sock person. Right now I don't even think I own any. I won't wear them - they drive me nuts. So I didn't get itno a tizzy if Wiz didn't have sock on with his shoes. My mother? Still hates that, lol!

    thank you is most remembered for SuperTyler. SuperTyler was his alter-ego superhero. SuperTyler was amazing. At about age 3 or so, thank you spent half an hour telling brother in law on husband's side all about SuperTyler. Including how when ST was flying all around the solar system and he had to go to the potty, his tushie or his elephant would stretch to the nearest potty on the nearest planet. He had this ALL worked out. Yes, his DID call his equipment his 'elephant'. One day he was looking at a baby animal board book and decided that his privates were the same as an elephant trunk. We gave zero input into that idea, it was pure Tyler. Or pure SuperTyler, not sure.

    Jessica? Her most memorable line was "I don't think so" with all the emphasis you can imagine. She trotted that one out when someone told her something that seemed totally ridiculous to her. From all the 'girls can't do this/that/the other" to looking down her nose at her father as he started to put some food item she didn't like on her plate. in my opinion the funnieset part was that if husband forgot I was at work, he would respond to her as if I said it. Even when it was something I would NEVER use that for. it frustrted the daylights out of husband and I thought it was hilarious. If you confuse a little girl's voice with yoru wife's?? You deserve whatever the tot dishes out. It was't like my schedule changed a lot, lol

    Kids are about the most entertaining things around.
     
  5. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    Unfortunately the logical consequences for some stuff would be things like her missing the bus in the morning. That absolutely cannot happen. For other stuff... yeah, I'm still working on the learning not to repeat myself too much thing. In some ways she's a LOT like I was at that age. And yes I recall my parents having to repeat themselves to the point of exhaustion before I would finally get something done.