BusynMember
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That was the kind word that I used because my daughter used the "S" word. What do you think? She made a new friend that none of her current friends like. She insists that she is a very nice girl, but that her friends all all her a "S-word." I stayed calm and asked why and she shrugged and said, "Because she's really beautiful and all the boys like her." I asked her her opinion and she said, "I doubt it." She was with her all weekend at the skating rink. I haven't met her yet, but, even if I do, that won't tell me a whole lot. I'm guessing that my daughter is probably right. Still, a little bit of the nervous me (see my anxiety disorder below) is wondering.
I never lived a normal "girl" life. As a tween I was a nerd and made fun of and I didn't get involved in cliques. My oldest daughter was doing drugs by 12, so I can't go by her either. Is this something girls do when they are jealous? Can you really get labeled that nasty "S" word just because you are very pretty and the boys like you? A part of me also knows that N. is going to come up against girls that really ARE promiscuous anyway and that I should just shut up. Thoughts? I really like her regular group of friends and this new one not being liked by these nice girls is a sort of mini-red flag to me. Yet I know I have to let N. pick her own friends unless they are obviously terrible problems. This girl has a bunch of friends, but they are not in my daughter's group. My daughter is very social and right now is a easy child with a personality that could get her into trouble one day. So far she has made good choices.
I never lived a normal "girl" life. As a tween I was a nerd and made fun of and I didn't get involved in cliques. My oldest daughter was doing drugs by 12, so I can't go by her either. Is this something girls do when they are jealous? Can you really get labeled that nasty "S" word just because you are very pretty and the boys like you? A part of me also knows that N. is going to come up against girls that really ARE promiscuous anyway and that I should just shut up. Thoughts? I really like her regular group of friends and this new one not being liked by these nice girls is a sort of mini-red flag to me. Yet I know I have to let N. pick her own friends unless they are obviously terrible problems. This girl has a bunch of friends, but they are not in my daughter's group. My daughter is very social and right now is a easy child with a personality that could get her into trouble one day. So far she has made good choices.